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Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People: A coaching clinic for victims of domestic abuse and their supporters

Your platitudes are proverbs of ashes  (Job 13:12a) Domestic abuse victims frequently find themselves misunderstood by those from whom they seek support. Such interchanges can be extremely distressing for victims — they feel at a loss as to how to respond to the attitude of the supporter. Frequently supporters don’t mean to hurt; it happens …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former church leaders to highlight the bias in their thinking. Dear Former Church Leaders, I was surprised to hear that your head pastor and you parted ways …

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Jay Adams taught counselors to side with male abusers and against female victims.

A guest post by Valerie Jacobsen. Misogynistic bias is a real thing, and it is very obvious here. Painfully obvious. Jay Adams is TEACHING counselors to side with male abusers and against female victims. He is TEACHING them to overlook crimes. So, if you have ever been in nouthetic counseling or “biblical” counseling and have …

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When it’s not safe to spend Christmas with family

Some survivors of abuse make the decision that it is not wise to spend Christmas with family. Others predetermine strict boundaries about how and where they will participate in family gatherings. And for some people it is simply impossible to spend Christmas with family or friends. (John 7:1-13) After that, Jesus went about in Galilee, …

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Abusers are empowered by pastors who are not careful how they teach about marriage

John Wesley wrote in his diary: I talked with one who, by the advice of his Pastor, had, very calmly and deliberately, beat his wife with a large stick, till she was black and blue, almost from head to foot. And he insisted, it was his duty so to do, because she was surly and …

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What is Abuse & What is the Christian Response? — by Latina Leaders Leaving Legacy

Is there someone in your life who belittles you or who makes you feel like you can never do anything right? Is this abusive? Is someone in your life being aggressive with you? Is this abusive? To understand the signs that there is an abusive person in your life and how should you react as …

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