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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Unjust church responses

Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People: A coaching clinic for victims of domestic abuse and their supporters

Your platitudes are proverbs of ashes  (Job 13:12a) Domestic abuse victims frequently find themselves misunderstood by those from whom they seek support. Such interchanges can be extremely distressing for victims — they feel at a loss as to how to respond to the attitude of the supporter. Frequently supporters don’t mean to hurt; it happens …

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“We Are Not Your Chum” – another brilliant post by Julie Cleaveland

God doesn’t use the hurting, the victim, the crushed, as bait. God doesn’t use the “trash fish” of society to reach a “trophy.” Jesus sees value and worth where others see none. God sees. God reaches. God searches. God stops. So you see, church leaders, we are not your chum. […continue reading Julie Cleaveland’s post …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former church leaders to highlight the bias in their thinking. Dear Former Church Leaders, I was surprised to hear that your head pastor and you parted ways …

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Jesus wouldn’t treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people – from Hadassah’s Legacy

If traditional beliefs about marriage and divorce compel us to treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people, we’ve messed up! Jesus would never do that. “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” (Gal 6:1) This …

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How many problems can you find in CBMW’s “Statement on Abuse”?

Chris Moles and I both have concerns about the Statement On Abuse which the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood published in 2018. But I see more problems in CBMW’s statement than the ones Chris Moles noticed. This post is the penultimate in my series about Chris Moles. I know that some readers are wanting the series to …

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A sure sign of an unsafe church is when it says abuse victims may not separate or divorce without permission from the church leaders

A Sure Sign a Church’s Claim to be a Friend of Abuse Victims is False – a reblog from Jeff Crippen’s site Light for Dark Times.   [ACFJ have given it a slightly different title; we trust Jeff doesn’t mind.] Currently, we are seeing churches and organizations jumping on the band wagon of supposedly exposing domestic and sexual …

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