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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Abusers cleverly disguise themselves. You will see what looks like Christ’s fruit, but He is not their root.

There are so many horrifying aspects to abusers. But one of the WORST is how they can and do cleverly disguise themselves. They can appear very nice, very kind and very friendly. They can even be encouraging, open minded and generous. And they can appear warm, affectionate and attentive as well. And others around them …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former church leaders to highlight the bias in their thinking. Dear Former Church Leaders, I was surprised to hear that your head pastor and you parted ways …

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Animal abuse and domestic violence

Approximately 60% of domestic violence victims stay in abusive relationships because they don’t want to leave their pet behind. 15% return to violent homes because of fear for their animals. Head trauma is one of the most common non-accidental injuries for pets in domestic violence. Dogs are the most common type of animal to be …

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Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie’s work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims’ comments and I will give links to their original comments …

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The righteous and the wicked have very different goals

The desire of the righteous is only good, But the expectation of the wicked is wrath. Proverbs 11:23 (NKJ) The righteous want peace, mutual respect, and safety. The wicked covertly stir things up by manipulating other people to become enraged at each other. Having sowed the seeds of the conflict, the wicked one walks away …

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When it’s not safe to spend Christmas with family

Some survivors of abuse make the decision that it is not wise to spend Christmas with family. Others predetermine strict boundaries about how and where they will participate in family gatherings. And for some people it is simply impossible to spend Christmas with family or friends. (John 7:1-13) After that, Jesus went about in Galilee, …

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