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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Violence against women and mental health

a) Male abuse and violence against women b) Mental health and mental illness These are big topics which intersect in complex ways. Violence against women and mental health is a research paper that examines the way that mental health intersects with trauma, complex trauma, disability, coercive control, access to justice and parenting. The paper is …

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There we sat down and wept — Psalm 137

When they could snatch a bit of time at the riverbank, out of eye or earshot of their masters, the captive Israelites didn’t have to sing happy songs on demand. There they could sit and weep. By the waters of Babylon we sat down and wept, / when we remembered thee, O Sion. As for …

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Pounding the facts; pounding the witness; pounding the table

Here is a way to identify whether someone is a genuine shepherd or a hireling-cum-wolf. Ask yourself, “Is this person pounding the facts? Or are they just pounding the witness or pounding the table?” This post is a recapitulation and coda to Part 3 of my series about Sheep, Shepherds and Wolves. The questions in …

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How can you tell if someone who has the office of shepherd is actually a hireling?

Discerning good leaders from incompetent / bad leaders is vital in these perilous times. This is Part 2 of a 3-part series.  Part 1  Part 3 In Part 1, I set out some basic differences between good leaders (true under-shepherds) and hirelings. Sooner or later, hirelings will abandon the sheep to the wolves. All true …

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Sheep, sheep-like shepherds, shepherds, and wolves

Society and especially the churches are in perilous times. Therefore it’s imperative to discern the difference between shepherds and wolves. There are three types of people in the church, as there are elsewhere. That’s a generalisation, but it can help us understand life. In Christian terms, those three types are Sheep, Shepherds and Wolves. This …

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Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser/psychopath

Guest post by James Many ‘ordinary’ people can go from calm to angry very quickly given the right circumstances. But only those with personality disorders (psychopaths etc) can go from anger to calm in an instant. It is a huge ‘tell-tale’. [Update — James has clarified this even more: Going from anger to charming in …

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