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Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie’s work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims’ comments and I will give links to their original comments …

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The righteous and the wicked have very different goals

The desire of the righteous is only good, But the expectation of the wicked is wrath. Proverbs 11:23 (NKJ) The righteous want peace, mutual respect, and safety. The wicked covertly stir things up by manipulating other people to become enraged at each other. Having sowed the seeds of the conflict, the wicked one walks away …

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When it’s not safe to spend Christmas with family

Some survivors of abuse make the decision that it is not wise to spend Christmas with family. Others predetermine strict boundaries about how and where they will participate in family gatherings. And for some people it is simply impossible to spend Christmas with family or friends. (John 7:1-13) After that, Jesus went about in Galilee, …

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Response to my detractors and apology to ACFJ followers I’ve hurt

Transcript of video I want to thank all the people who have encouraged me and given me fair criticism over the last few weeks. I have really appreciated your emails, phone calls, messages and comments.¹  In the last few months I’ve been helping several victims of abuse get safe from serious abuse. And at the …

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Female healthcare workers experience domestic abuse at higher rates than the general female population

Nearly half of female healthcare workers have experienced domestic abuse, Australian study finds A landmark investigation into female healthcare staff in Australia has found nearly half have experienced domestic violence, including one in 10 who had been abused by their partner in the past year alone. The study, published in the BMC Women’s Health journal, …

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She nags me! – what the abuser means when he says that

“She nags me” means she presses me to accept my responsibilities. If you ask an abuser to fulfil his responsibilities, you are not being controlling. You are not abusing the perpetrator when you ask him to accept his responsibilities. You are being a reasonable adult human being. You are simply calling on him to be …

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