Victims usually stay with abusers because they face entrapment barriers that prevent them from leaving. "Churches must evaluate the entrapment barriers they create and perpetuate that keep victims entrapped in abuse," says Andrea Aleksandrova in her superb article Becoming A Safe Church: How churches can become safe spaces for victims of domestic abuse. I am… Continue reading Churches must evaluate the entrapment barriers they create and perpetuate that keep victims entrapped in abuse — Andrea Aleksandrova
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Language and Violence Masterclass by Dr Linda Coates
Watch: Language and Violence Masterclass by Dr Linda Coates The video cannot be embedded here. Click the above link to watch it. In the masterclass, Linda Coates gives detailed examples of how language is used to conceal abuse, obfuscate the perpetrator's responsibility, conceal victims' resistance, and blame and pathologise victims. The examples she gives come… Continue reading Language and Violence Masterclass by Dr Linda Coates
Stockholm Syndrome: isolation, perceived acts of kindness, perceived life threat, perceived inablity to escape.
The so-called Stockholm Syndrome explains why people stay in abusive situations, why people cannot see the evidence that it is an abusive situation, and why victims of abuse can remain irrationally loyal to the abuser. In this article, I have loosely transcribed Meredith Miller's explanation and added a few clarifying words of my own. Meredith… Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: isolation, perceived acts of kindness, perceived life threat, perceived inablity to escape.
All the things I didn’t tell you — a guest post
You may have wondered, "How could that marriage have ended? They seemed so sweet. So together. So loving." We made a pretty picture. Gaggle of adorable children. Serious Christians. Dedicated to our faith and family. Oh yes. When I left, you thought I was just giving him a wake-up call, probably. You understand that. Husbands… Continue reading All the things I didn’t tell you — a guest post
Abusive Endings: Separation and Divorce Violence against Women, by Walter DeKeseredy
We have not read this book but we know it would be good because Walter DeKeseredy is a highly respected social scientist in the field of domestic abuse. https://www.amazon.com/Abusive-Endings-Separation-Divorce-Violence/dp/0520285751 Here is the blurb: Abusive Endings offers a thorough analysis of the social-science literature on one of the most significant threats to the health and well-being… Continue reading Abusive Endings: Separation and Divorce Violence against Women, by Walter DeKeseredy
‘Fred and Marie’ fictional video — This is not fiction for some couples
TRIGGER WARNING: This video is 15 minutes in length and will almost certainly trigger some, so please be prepared. "Fred et marie" is a video produced by Bonjour, Inc. It is in French, but there are English subtitles. This video does an excellent job of portraying coercive control, entrapment, social abuse & isolation, emotional abuse,… Continue reading ‘Fred and Marie’ fictional video — This is not fiction for some couples
A Cry For Justice 