All the things I didn’t tell you — a guest post

You may have wondered, "How could that marriage have ended? They seemed so sweet. So together. So loving."  We made a pretty picture. Gaggle of adorable children. Serious Christians. Dedicated to our faith and family. Oh yes. When I left, you thought I was just giving him a wake-up call, probably. You understand that. Husbands… Continue reading All the things I didn’t tell you — a guest post

Abusive Endings: Separation and Divorce Violence against Women, by Walter DeKeseredy

We have not read this book but we know it would be good because Walter DeKeseredy is a highly respected social scientist in the field of domestic abuse. https://www.amazon.com/Abusive-Endings-Separation-Divorce-Violence/dp/0520285751 Here is the blurb: Abusive Endings offers a thorough analysis of the social-science literature on one of the most significant threats to the health and well-being… Continue reading Abusive Endings: Separation and Divorce Violence against Women, by Walter DeKeseredy

‘Fred and Marie’ fictional video — This is not fiction for some couples

TRIGGER WARNING:  This video is 15 minutes in length and will almost certainly trigger some, so please be prepared. "Fred et marie" is a video produced by Bonjour, Inc. It is in French, but there are English subtitles.  This video does an excellent job of portraying coercive control, entrapment, social abuse & isolation, emotional abuse,… Continue reading ‘Fred and Marie’ fictional video — This is not fiction for some couples

Another abuser grooms, deceives, marries and abuses her. DyingStar’s story Part 2

Many thanks to our friend Dying Star for sharing more of her story. You can read the first part of her story here. She is writing as you can see in a historical present tense. Trigger warning. I am 22 years old. I am going through a divorce from my first abusive marriage when I meet… Continue reading Another abuser grooms, deceives, marries and abuses her. DyingStar’s story Part 2

Utter nonsense from Desiring God, designed to isolate women

How about this for a ludicrous quiz that will make many women and girls go into a tailspin of self-doubt and cause them to turn healthy friendships into superficial shallow friendships? What a brilliant way to keep women isolated! Desiring God's article More Than BFFs: When Friendship Goes Too Far really takes the cake for ludicrous, micro-managing legalism. Here… Continue reading Utter nonsense from Desiring God, designed to isolate women

Family Scapegoating: Part 2

To read Part 1 of this series click here It is very challenging for a victim of family scapegoating to escape their position. Nevertheless, it is necessary. Rarely does a victim escape before the age of 30 and, even then, the victim needs tremendous support (if possible) to break free from the clutches of manipulation and… Continue reading Family Scapegoating: Part 2

Signs of an abusive relationship — where the abuse is hard to recognize

If your partner is displaying a combination of these behaviors, you may have a potential violent person on your hands. This list is adapted from “Signs to Look for in a Battering Personality,” from the Project for Victims of Family Violence, Fayetteville, Arkansas, and can be found at the archive of ARMS (Abuse Recovery Ministry… Continue reading Signs of an abusive relationship — where the abuse is hard to recognize