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Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser/psychopath

Guest post by James Many ‘ordinary’ people can go from calm to angry very quickly given the right circumstances. But only those with personality disorders (psychopaths etc) can go from anger to calm in an instant. It is a huge ‘tell-tale’. [Update — James has clarified this even more: Going from anger to charming in …

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When kids have to spend time with an abusive parent, how can they apply ‘heap burning coals upon his head’?

A reader says: I am a post-divorce survivor of domestic violence. My family have grown and changed a lot along with me through this process… from being unwitting allies of my X, to now maintaining no contact and helping me escape from my abuser. My kids have to have regular visitation with their Dad by …

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Is it wrong to feel ANGER and HATRED for my abuser? — a new FAQ

Victims are often told that they’re sinning if they feel anger or hatred towards their abusers. So we have created a new FAQ that lists several blog posts which address that issue. Is it wrong to feel ANGER and HATRED for my abuser? “Be angry and do not sin” (Eph. 4:26) is not the Bible’s …

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I would love to reconcile with my dad. But I need to see repentance.

I grew up in a Christian home. I should clarify, my mother’s faith was always an inspiration to me, but all I saw with my father’s so-called faith was hypocrisy and using the Bible as a weapon against others. Then one day, my mother came to me weeping over my father’s actions towards her. She …

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Offending and re-grooming: the skills men use to abuse their female partners (Don Hennessy series part 5)

The man who abuses his female partner is a skilled and very devious sexual offender who uses his psychephile skills to select a target woman, set her up, befriend her mind, and groom her. As his grooming tactics are progressing successfully he starts to offend on her sexually. After offending, he re-grooms her…in order to …

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“If You Only Understood…” Using History as an Excuse for Sin

But that is not the way you learned Christ! — assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit …

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