Barbara Roberts ♦ 26th September 2020 ♦ 12 Comments
Many Christians believe that God hates divorce. This mistaken idea comes from mis-translations of Malachi 2:16. I have been rebutting the idea that ‘God hates divorce’ since 2008. I wrote about it in my book Not Under Bondage. I am in the process of revising my book and the chapter on Malachi will be entirely …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 6th September 2020 ♦ 12 Comments
Many people are unaware of the injustice which Christian victims of domestic abuse suffer in churches. Unpacking the erroneous notion that ‘God hates divorce’ is a vital element of giving justice to the abused. Where did the notion that ‘God hates divorce’ come from? It came into being through the King James Bible. I will …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 20th August 2020 ♦ 3 Comments
Here are tips and encouragement for sheep who are stepping forward as shepherds. God’s word urges us to grow into maturity in Christ: ….until we every one (in the unity of faith and the knowledge of the Son of God) grow up to be perfect in the maturity of the fullness of Christ; so that …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 17th July 2020 ♦ 19 Comments
Like a man in prison ever desires to be delivered, whether he be eating or drinking or sleeping, and like someone who is sick desires always to be whole, so every true Christian prays continually – yea, even when he seems not to pray. For prayer consists not in much babbling (Matthew 6:7) but in …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 5th July 2020 ♦ 8 Comments
Thou Lord, in the beginning, hast laid the foundation of the earth; / and the heavens are the work of thy hands. They shall perish, but thou shalt endure; / they shall all wax old as a garment; And as a vesture thou shalt change them, and they shall be changed; / but thou art …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 25th April 2020 ♦ 47 Comments
“Keep your focus at the foot of the cross” is often dished out by those who consider themselves Christians. It’s a common mantra in Christianese. It’s used by accredited Christian counselors, church leaders, pew warmers, tin-pot evangelists… you name it. The saying is easy to learn and repeat parrot fashion, like a mantra. Or like …
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The definition of abuse: A pattern of coercive control (ongoing actions or inactions) that proceeds from a mentality of entitlement to power, whereby, through intimidation, manipulation and isolation, the abuser keeps his* target subordinated and under his control. This pattern can be emotional, verbal, psychological, spiritual, sexual, financial, social and physical. Not all these elements need be present, e.g., physical abuse may not be part of it.
The definition of domestic abuser: a family member or dating partner (current or ex) who has a profound mentality of entitlement to the possession of power and control over the one s/he* chooses to mistreat. This mentality of entitlement defines the very essence of the abuser. The abuser believes he is justified in using evil tactics to obtain and maintain that power and control.
* Sometimes the genders are reversed—see our tag for 'male survivors' (tags tab in the top menu).
To say that abusers cannot change removes responsibility for sin. They can change, but the vast majority choose not to, which is what the experts state. When God punishes them, their punishment is just. Abusers have options for treatment and are accountable.
Once the marriage covenant is broken through abuse, the abused partner does not need to stay in the marriage waiting for the abuser to change. The abuser's recovery is a separate issue and his change is his own responsibility, not his wife's. This is the mistake most churches make. These churches have over-sentimentalized marriage and are legalists.
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