A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Author Archive: Barbara Roberts

A dog’s experience of domestic abuse

Jenny’s Story: Observations of Life from a Three Year Old ‘Sheltie’ Jenny’s story was written by ‘Kathryn’, who uses a pseudonym because her X gets in stalking mode when the mood strikes him. Kathryn’s blog is Escaping the ‘trap’ of domestic violence. [Re-blogged with Kathryn’s permission.] Possible trigger warning for those who have witnessed animal abuse—but …

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‘Still Married in the Sight of God’ — how this expression has been used in Christendom

‘Still married in the sight of God’ has been a piece of Christian jargon for centuries. Like the slogan ‘God hates divorce,’ it has been a cause of injury and entrapment to many victims of domestic abuse — as well as to those who have suffered other kinds of marital violation. This article only discusses …

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Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People: A coaching clinic for victims of domestic abuse and their supporters

Your platitudes are proverbs of ashes  (Job 13:12a) Domestic abuse victims frequently find themselves misunderstood by those from whom they seek support. Such interchanges can be extremely distressing for victims — they feel at a loss as to how to respond to the attitude of the supporter. Frequently supporters don’t mean to hurt; it happens …

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“We Are Not Your Chum” – another brilliant post by Julie Cleaveland

God doesn’t use the hurting, the victim, the crushed, as bait. God doesn’t use the “trash fish” of society to reach a “trophy.” Jesus sees value and worth where others see none. God sees. God reaches. God searches. God stops. So you see, church leaders, we are not your chum. […continue reading Julie Cleaveland’s post …

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Recharging my battery

I’m taking a break for several weeks, to visit my daughter, but I’ll still be publishing posts. While I’m away, the posts to be published may include items that have been on my notunderbondage site and reblogs of some of my older articles from ACFJ.  There may be a bit of lag time in my …

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“Leave the choice to divorce to the victim,” says the SBC’s Church Cares curriculum.

The Church Cares video curriculum produced by the SBC has said something rather stunning about divorce. Near the end of lesson 10, “Pastoral Care and Correction for an Abuser,” Brad Hambrick says: “we do not view prolonged separation or divorce as worse than refusing to change abusive behaviours.” That is good news. But there’s something …

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