Meredith Miller is a trauma coach. She teaches the mindsets, skills and actions to help people recover after relational trauma. In this video she talks about cognitive dissonance, emotional short-circuiting, trauma-based mind control, and awakening to the fact that you are being abused. She describes how having power over others is addictive. The abuser wants… Continue reading Meredith Miller on abuse dynamics — from the micro to the macro level.
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Have there been any “Biblical Patriarchy” homes that have been healthy?
Rebecca Davis asked a good question: Do you know anyone who grew up in a home that claimed to be a "Biblical patriarchal" home that was happy and healthy, with parents who loved and respected each other and in which the children grew up to be whole and well-functioning adults? Rebecca asked this question on… Continue reading Have there been any “Biblical Patriarchy” homes that have been healthy?
“How He Wins” – Don Hennessy’s new book
Don Hennessy's new book, How He Wins: Abusive Intimate Partners Going Free [Affiliate link], addresses a world-wide problem: Our failure to reduce the level of male intimate abuse. We've all heard the terms 'domestic abuse' and 'domestic violence'. When a man perpetrates abuse on his female intimate partner, Don Hennessy calls that male intimate abuse.… Continue reading “How He Wins” – Don Hennessy’s new book
Violence against women and mental health
a) Male abuse and violence against women b) Mental health and mental illness These are big topics which intersect in complex ways. Violence against women and mental health is a research paper that examines the way that mental health intersects with trauma, complex trauma, disability, coercive control, access to justice and parenting. The paper is… Continue reading Violence against women and mental health
Submission to authority figures — the Milgram Experiment and Stanford Prison Experiment
Many people behave unethically when they are instructed to do so by what they perceive as a legitimate authority figure. If you have suffered abuse, whether it be emotional, spiritual, psychological, physical or sexual abuse, you might be asking "How can someone be so cruel?" The Milgram Experiment and the Stanford Prison Experiment have shown… Continue reading Submission to authority figures — the Milgram Experiment and Stanford Prison Experiment
Australia’s Family Court is ordering children into unsafe situations
Australia is not the only place where children are being forced to have contact with abusers by the legal system. Caution: For some readers, some of the linked articles may be triggering. What is the so-called evangelical church doing about any of this? I answer that ^ question at the bottom of this post. I… Continue reading Australia’s Family Court is ordering children into unsafe situations
The Jewish divorce certificate gave women the right to remarry, but some men used it rule over women
For centuries Jewish religious leaders have insisted that in order for a divorce to be legal, the husband must write a certificate of divorce. The essential words in the certificate were "You are free to marry any man". Jews call this divorce certificate a 'get' – it is a Hebrew word unrelated to our English… Continue reading The Jewish divorce certificate gave women the right to remarry, but some men used it rule over women