John Street is an Elder at John MacArthur's church and a professor of biblical counseling at The Master’s University and Seminary. In his sermon The Emotionally Abusive Marriage, he sets up a rigid dichotomy: Fearlessness = godliness. Protecting yourself = worldliness. (time mark 1:26:50) The effect God's grace has in our lives is that of… Continue reading John MacArthur’s church Elder & Professor of Biblical Counseling assumes that all Elders will shepherd well
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Messages used by psychological abusers — domestic abusers and governments
In psychological abuse, the abuser conveys messages in order to steer and control the feelings, thinking and behaviour of his target. This article compares messages used by domestic abusers with messages used by governments and corporate media. Understanding the similarities and parallels may help you make sense of the confusion that is around you. We… Continue reading Messages used by psychological abusers — domestic abusers and governments
Stockholm Syndrome: isolation, perceived acts of kindness, perceived life threat, perceived inablity to escape.
The Stockholm Syndrome explains why people stay in abusive situations, why people cannot see the evidence that it is an abusive situation, and why victims of abuse can remain irrationally loyal to the abuser. In this article, I have loosely transcribed Meredith Miller's explanation of the four parameters of Stockholm Syndrome and added a few… Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: isolation, perceived acts of kindness, perceived life threat, perceived inablity to escape.
Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser / psychopath
Guest post by James. Many ‘ordinary’ people can go from calm to angry very quickly given the right circumstances. But only those with personality disorders (psychopaths, etc.) can go from anger to calm in an instant. It is a huge ‘tell-tale’. [Update — James has clarified this even more: Going from anger to charming in… Continue reading Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser / psychopath
A Letter to the Church – The Things I Couldn’t Tell You
If thou forbear to deliver them that are drawn unto death, and those that are ready to be slain; If thou sayest, Behold, we knew it not; doth not he that pondereth the heart consider it? and he that keepeth thy soul, doth not he know it? and shall not he render to every man… Continue reading A Letter to the Church – The Things I Couldn’t Tell You
How the male intimate abuser selects, sets-up & grooms a target woman (Don Hennessy series part 3)
The man who is abusing his long-term female partner has honed the skills required to select a target woman and then set her up, target her and groom her, in order to be able to offend against her with impunity and then re-groom her... so he can re-offend against her. That is what Don Hennessy… Continue reading How the male intimate abuser selects, sets-up & grooms a target woman (Don Hennessy series part 3)
If God put you together you’re not allowed to separate — says Dr. Heath Lambert, Executive Director of ACBC
It seems that the biblical counseling world has latched on to the topic of domestic violence. Just this last summer IBCD (Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship) devoted part of their 2017 Summer Conference to the topic of domestic abuse. And in 2018 there are several conferences scheduled that will address domestic abuse: the Faith… Continue reading If God put you together you’re not allowed to separate — says Dr. Heath Lambert, Executive Director of ACBC