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Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie’s work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims’ comments and I will give links to their original comments …

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Victims resist abuse in prudent, determined and creative ways

Alongside each history of abuse, there runs a parallel history of prudent, determined and often creative resistance. This is one of the things I’ve learned from Dr Allan Wade & his colleague Linda Coates. They are Canadian counselors have worked with many survivors of oppression and abuse; they also train other counselors and victim-advocates. Note: …

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Why I publish my concerns about various abuse advocates (part 4 of series on ChurchCares)

You may be wondering why I am publicly articulating my concerns about various abuse advocates. I have searched my heart and don’t think I’m motivated by self conceit or sour grapes or a desire to be combative. And I certainly don’t do it because I relish being reprimanded on social media! I do it because …

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Biblical meekness is not weakness

Biblical meekness is not weakness that lacks courage or resolution. It is a condition of mind and heart which demonstrates gentleness not in weakness but in power; a balance born in strength of character. It is strength that gets angry at the right time, in the right measure, and for the right reason. In modern English the …

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When kids have to spend time with an abusive parent, how can they apply ‘heap burning coals upon his head’?

A reader says: I am a post-divorce survivor of domestic violence. My family have grown and changed a lot along with me through this process… from being unwitting allies of my X, to now maintaining no contact and helping me escape from my abuser. My kids have to have regular visitation with their Dad by …

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The Gray Rock Method (or, the Grey Rock Method)*

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
One of our dear readers turned our attention toward this article here: The Gray Rock Method of Dealing with Psychopaths Note from Barb Roberts, added 6 Aug 2013 — the author of the article above goes by the name of Skylar on her current blog; we have changed…

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