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“Leave the choice to divorce to the victim,” says the SBC’s Church Cares curriculum.

The Church Cares video curriculum produced by the SBC has said something rather stunning about divorce. Near the end of lesson 10, “Pastoral Care and Correction for an Abuser,” Brad Hambrick says: “We do not view prolonged separation or divorce as worse than refusing to change abusive behaviours.” That is good news. But there’s something …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

[September 16, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former …

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A possible sign of an unsafe church is when it says abuse victims may not separate or divorce without permission from the church leaders

[August 19, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] *** SECOND UPDATE, Aug  19, 2022: I, Barbara Roberts, now regret re-blogging this post by Jeff Crippen. I believe Jeff’s post was unfair and quite likely slandered the leaders …

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Christians are jumping on the bandwagon to ‘help the abused’. James has something to say about that.

If a brother or a sister is without proper clothing, or destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, Depart in peace; may God send you warmth and food – and notwithstanding, you do not give them those things that are needful to the body, what help is it? Pure devotion, and …

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For the Kingdom! – A survivor of domestic abuse tells her story

There was an unhealthy dynamic in our marriage. But generosity, forbearance and patience are not sins, while unkindness, unjust accusations, lies and selfishness are. This guest post is by our reader ‘Gaining Momentum’. Many thanks to her for writing it. This feels like it’s been a long time coming – writing down what I want …

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Abusive Endings: Separation and Divorce Violence against Women, by Walter DeKeseredy

We have not read this book but we know it would be good because Walter DeKeseredy is a highly respected social scientist in the field of domestic abuse. Here is the blurb: Abusive Endings offers a thorough analysis of the social-science literature on one of the most significant threats to the health and well-being of …

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