John Gottman studied domestic abusers as they argued with their wives to see whether the man’s heart rate changed during the argument. The men fell into two distinct types: Cobras (25%) and Pitbulls (75%). At certain critical moments of conflict interaction, Cobras' heart rates decrease, whereas Pitbulls' increase. In the couples Gottman studied, women… Continue reading Cobras and Pitbulls
The Church Cares video curriculum produced by the SBC has said something rather stunning about divorce. Near the end of lesson 10, "Pastoral Care and Correction for an Abuser," Brad Hambrick says: "We do not view prolonged separation or divorce as worse than refusing to change abusive behaviours." That is good news. But there's something… Continue reading “Leave the choice to divorce to the victim,” says the SBC’s Church Cares curriculum.