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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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All the things I didn’t tell you — a guest post

You may have wondered, “How could that marriage have ended? They seemed so sweet. So together. So loving.”  We made a pretty picture. Gaggle of adorable children. Serious Christians. Dedicated to our faith and family. Oh yes. When I left, you thought I was just giving him a wake-up call, probably. You understand that. Husbands …

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‘Fred and Marie’ fictional video — This is not fiction for some couples

TRIGGER WARNING:  This video is 15 minutes in length and will almost certainly trigger some, so please be prepared. “Fred et marie” is a video produced by Bonjour, Inc. It is in French, but there are English subtitles.  This video does an excellent job of portraying coercive control, entrapment, social abuse & isolation, emotional abuse, …

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One crazy-making ally-obtaining tactic of an abuser: simultaneous scorn and imitation

Our thanks to Rebecca Davis for submitting this post. It was written with the permission of the abuse survivor whose story it is. *** When Lydia was young she was very creative, and the other girls at school liked to copy her creative ideas. She didn’t like being copied, but her mother assured her, “Imitation …

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Monday Mourning

Today I sit on my daughter’s empty bed again and just cry. I’m exhausted from a week of trying to undo yet again, what my ex did the week before. My life now is handling tantrums and rages born of fear, frustration, hurt and confusion. It’s crawling under benches and beds, to sit with my …

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The Love Dare, a dangerous book in the hands of an abuser — by Deborah

We want to thank Deborah for her willingness to share another part of her story with us… Anybody heard of the Love Dare? If you have seen the movie “Fireproof”, you will know that The Love Dare is a book given to the main character of the movie, to use as a last ditch effort …

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Gaslighters in the Bible

Any of this sound familiar? Dathan and Abiram Numbers 16:12-13  And Moses sent to call Dathan and Abiram the sons of Eliab, and they said, “We will not come up. Is it a small thing that you have brought us up out of a land flowing with milk and honey, to kill us in the …

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