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Messages used by psychological abusers — domestic abusers and governments

In psychological abuse, the abuser conveys messages in order to steer and control the feelings, thinking and behaviour of his target. This article compares messages used by domestic abusers with messages used by governments and corporate media. Understanding the similarities and parallels may help you make sense of the confusion that is around you.  We …

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Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt

Some people teach that when an abuse victim is rebuking the abuser, the victim must do so in a way that shows evident love and respect for the abuser. Is that teaching in the Bible, or is it a doctrine which people have invented? Let me show you an example of that teaching. I adapted …

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Are you walking on eggshells?

If you feel like you are walking on eggshells… … you may be suffering from domestic abuse, which is persistent or recurrent behaviour by an intimate partner that causes physical, sexual or psychological damage, or causes the victim to live in fear. It is not just marital conflict over particular issues (which can be conflict …

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Submission to authority figures — the Milgram Experiment and Stanford Prison Experiment

Many people behave unethically when they are instructed to do so by what they perceive as a legitimate authority figure. If you have suffered abuse, whether it be emotional, spiritual, psychological, physical or sexual abuse, you might be asking “How can someone be so cruel?”  The Milgram Experiment and the Stanford Prison Experiment have shown …

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Family – is blood thicker than water?

UPDATE Sept 2021:  I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches.  He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let …

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“Do not take a brother to court” – does it mean you can’t seek a protection order against your abuser?

To seek a protection order from the court is not a sin. A victim of abuse does not go against biblical principles by seeking a protection order from the secular justice system, even if the abuser professes to be a believer. The “do not take a brother to court” principle from 1 Corinthians 6 must …

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