A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Salvation is not a ‘spiritual bargain’ you can make with God

Salvation is much mis-taught and misunderstood in Christendom. ABUSERS who claim to be Christians could be roughly divided into two groups: the ones who genuinely think they are Christians, and the ones who intentionally lie in their claim to be Christians. The abusers who genuinely think they are Christians may be thinking they are saved …

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Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser/psychopath

Guest post by James Many ‘ordinary’ people can go from calm to angry very quickly given the right circumstances. But only those with personality disorders (psychopaths etc) can go from anger to calm in an instant. It is a huge ‘tell-tale’. [Update — James has clarified this even more: Going from anger to charming in …

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Jesus on Violence

Many are puzzled by Jesus’ different approaches to the subject of violence. ‘turn the other cheek’ ‘the meek shall inherit the earth’ whipping the bankers and merchants out of the Temple telling the apostles to get swords for themselves before going into the Garden of Gethsemane rebuking Peter for slicing off the ear of a …

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Relationship Abuse: the Short Story

Male abuse is based on sexual entitlement, says relationship counselor Don Hennessy, and every abused woman senses this. We must take focus from the woman and put it onto the abuser, challenging his attitudes on sex. It is his responsibility to seek permission, not hers to refuse (or allow). The Bible itself condemns men’s sexual …

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Abusers cleverly disguise themselves. You will see what looks like Christ’s fruit, but He is not their root.

There are so many horrifying aspects to abusers. But one of the WORST is how they can and do cleverly disguise themselves. They can appear very nice, very kind and very friendly. They can even be encouraging, open minded and generous. And they can appear warm, affectionate and attentive as well. And others around them …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former church leaders to highlight the bias in their thinking. Dear Former Church Leaders, I was surprised to hear that your head pastor and you parted ways …

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