A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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My eyes shed streams of tears, because people do not keep your law

[August 14, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Psalm 119:121-136  (ESV) 121 I have done what is just and right; do not leave me to my oppressors. 122 Give your servant a pledge of good; let not …

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The gratuitous “I didn’t . . . ” — a verbal tactic of the abuser

In a case that happened several months ago in my home state of Victoria, Australia, a father of four was accused of three counts of rape and one of murder of a woman whom he did not previously know. While shedding crocodile tears during the police interview, he used a red-flag phrase. He gratuitously stated …

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Tactics: How the Abuser Sets You Up

Note from Jeff C and Barb: we are pleased to announce that Katy is now one of our Authors on the blog. In fact, this is the second post with her byline, but we forgot to announce her joining the team when her first post was published. This post is about ongoing trauma which results …

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“I Thought I Would Feel Better” (or, as Barb would say, “I Thot I would Feel Bettah”)

As you all can imagine, Barbara and I have spent oodles of time discussing . . . well, just about everything. It has been like my sister and I have picked up from where we left off (only we just *really* met). I do not know if it is having similar pasts . . . …

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Friends

[September 27, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Yesterday I watched Jeff S’s live concert on the web. Megan and I watched it together, and her husband David got home from work in the middle and watched …

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My Reaction to Wendell’s Story

UPDATE  Sept 2021:  I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches.  He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let …

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Lundy Bancroft has more to teach us about crying

Informational post only: Lundy Bancroft’s latest post is about crying! When You Know You Need A Good Cry Lundy accepts comments but doesn’t often reply in the thread himself. Just letting you know. *** ***IMPORTANT NOTE:  While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend anyone attend the ‘healing retreats’ …

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