Meredith Miller is a trauma coach. She teaches the mindsets, skills and actions to help people recover after relational trauma. In this video she talks about cognitive dissonance, emotional short-circuiting, trauma-based mind control, and awakening to the fact that you are being abused. She describes how having power over others is addictive. The abuser wants… Continue reading Meredith Miller on abuse dynamics — from the micro to the macro level.
Tag: abuser’s mentality
“Suffering and the Heart of God” by Diane Langberg — Review by Barbara Roberts
Diane Langberg doesn't seem to believe there are people whose father is the devil — so she doesn't seem to understand the mind of the sociopath. In her book Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores (New Growth Press, 2015), she writes as if all people have active consciences and every person feels bad… Continue reading “Suffering and the Heart of God” by Diane Langberg — Review by Barbara Roberts
Left and Right Brains — the delusion and pride of left-brain dominated thinking
This post from James started out as private correspondence (which I, Barb, was privy to) between James and a mutual friend of ours. It focussed on "Power corrupts", what gets corrupted and how. When politicians and pastors exercise extreme control, they use their authority to mislead, coerce, micro-manage and oppress people. In this post, James… Continue reading Left and Right Brains — the delusion and pride of left-brain dominated thinking
Joseph’s brothers were afraid of Joseph even though he had forgiven them
After their father died, the ten older brothers were afraid of Joseph’s anger. This post explores why. It also discusses the value of comprehensive horizontal confession: confessing in detail to the person we have hurt exactly how we sinned against them. (Gen 50:14-15) After Joseph buried his father, he returned to Egypt with his brothers… Continue reading Joseph’s brothers were afraid of Joseph even though he had forgiven them
The second test Joseph gave his brothers
Joseph, as Governor of Egypt, had begun testing his brothers by falsely accusing them of being spies. He had retained Simeon in custody and instructed the other nine brothers to return home and come again to Egypt bringing their youngest brother Benjamin with them. (see part 1 of this series) Their father Jacob was very… Continue reading The second test Joseph gave his brothers
“How He Wins” – Don Hennessy’s new book
Don Hennessy's new book, How He Wins: Abusive Intimate Partners Going Free [Affiliate link], addresses a world-wide problem: Our failure to reduce the level of male intimate abuse. We've all heard the terms 'domestic abuse' and 'domestic violence'. When a man perpetrates abuse on his female intimate partner, Don Hennessy calls that male intimate abuse.… Continue reading “How He Wins” – Don Hennessy’s new book
The abuser – at home and in leadership
The abuser contaminates his moral character. Harsh cruelty is the fabric, the warp and weft, of his thoughts. He scorns his marriage promises. If he has a position of authority, he scorns his responsibility to those he leads. Malevolence permeates his thoughts. He engrosses his moral character with wickedness. And if he refuses to set… Continue reading The abuser – at home and in leadership