A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Abusers know no shame

Zephaniah 3:1-5 Woe to the city that is rebellious and defiled, the oppressive city! 2 She has not obeyed; she has not accepted discipline. She has not trusted in the Lord; she has not drawn near to her God. 3 The princes within her are roaring lions; her judges are wolves of the night, which leave nothing …

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Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie’s work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims’ comments and I will give links to their original comments …

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Diane Langberg is advocating for abuse victims, but… (pt 3 of series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

I know many victims and victim-advocates have found Diane Langberg’s work valuable. In her counseling, public speaking and writing she is raising awareness about abuse. She is reaching conservative leaders and she’s trained many counselors and church-goers about how to identify and respond to abuse, trauma and narcissistic leadership. Diane is one of the training …

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The righteous and the wicked have very different goals

The desire of the righteous is only good, But the expectation of the wicked is wrath. Proverbs 11:23 (NKJ) The righteous want peace, mutual respect, and safety. The wicked covertly stir things up by manipulating other people to become enraged at each other. Having sowed the seeds of the conflict, the wicked one walks away …

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Why men abuse women and what makes them stop – by Barry Goldstein

Courts Must Learn Basics about Domestic Violence Four decades after domestic violence first became a public issue [in the USA] our courts still don’t understand the causes and effective responses to domestic violence. Attempting to resolve DV cases without fundamental DV knowledge is like sending children to unregulated daycare; we keep seeing avoidable tragedies in …

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Abusers are empowered by pastors who are not careful how they teach about marriage

John Wesley wrote in his diary: I talked with one who, by the advice of his Pastor, had, very calmly and deliberately, beat his wife with a large stick, till she was black and blue, almost from head to foot. And he insisted, it was his duty so to do, because she was surly and …

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