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Category Archives: Unjust church responses

Pounding the facts; pounding the witness; pounding the table

Here is a way to identify whether someone is a genuine shepherd or a hireling-cum-wolf. Ask yourself, “Is this person pounding the facts? Or are they just pounding the witness or pounding the table?” This post is a recapitulation and coda to Part 3 of my series about Sheep, Shepherds and Wolves. The questions in …

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Apologies—the good and the bad. Wade Mullen’s wisdom from observing institutional apologies.

Fake apologies employ self-justification. They appease just enough to quell resistance. They excuse the abusers and condemn the victims. Real apologies involve surrender, confession, recognition and empathy. What I’ve Observed When Institutions Try to Apologize and How They Can Do Better by Wade Mullen. Too often the words “We are sorry” are casually offered and …

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Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People: A coaching clinic for victims of domestic abuse and their supporters

[June 10, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Your platitudes are proverbs of ashes  (Job 13:12a) Domestic abuse victims frequently find themselves misunderstood by those from whom they seek support. Such interchanges can be extremely distressing for …

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“We Are Not Your Chum” – another brilliant post by Julie Cleaveland

….God doesn’t use the hurting, the victim, the crushed, as bait. God doesn’t use the “trash fish” of society to reach a “trophy.” Jesus sees value and worth where others see none. God sees. God reaches. God searches. God stops. So you see, church leaders, we are not your chum. […continue reading Julie Cleaveland’s post …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

[September 16, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former …

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Jesus wouldn’t treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people – from Hadassah’s Legacy

[Updated 08/26/20] While the Hadassah’s Legacy website upon which this ACFJ blog post was based was active as of 08/26/20, the Hadassah’s Legacy website owner informed ACFJ the website will, at some point, be taken offline. The link in this ACFJ blog post has been updated to reflect where the original Hadassah’s Legacy link was …

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