Some people teach that when an abuse victim is rebuking the abuser, the victim must do so in a way that shows evident love and respect for the abuser. Is that teaching in the Bible, or is it a doctrine which people have invented? Let me show you an example of that teaching. I adapted… Continue reading Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt
Joseph’s treatment of his brothers — reflections and applications
Update: I have altered this post after receiving constructive criticism from Sister. I no longer agree with everything I wrote in the first version but am keeping the first version in the public domain as a PDF (link). It can also be found at the Web Archive — Barbara Roberts, April 16th, 2021 *** Joseph’s… Continue reading Joseph’s treatment of his brothers — reflections and applications
Joseph’s brothers were afraid of Joseph even though he had forgiven them
After their father died, the ten older brothers were afraid of Joseph’s anger. This post explores why. It also discusses the value of comprehensive horizontal confession: confessing in detail to the person we have hurt exactly how we sinned against them. (Gen 50:14-15) After Joseph buried his father, he returned to Egypt with his brothers… Continue reading Joseph’s brothers were afraid of Joseph even though he had forgiven them
Are abusers mentally deficient? Are people who suffer abuse mentally deficient?
If someone is diagnosed with a 'personality disorder' or a 'mental health disorder' – does that mean that person has a deficit? Does it mean that person is deficient? Should that person be excused? Should that person be given compassionate help and assistance? Mental health professionals use terms like 'disorder' and 'personality disorder' very inconsistently.… Continue reading Are abusers mentally deficient? Are people who suffer abuse mentally deficient?
Peak Living Network – Lundy Bancroft – warning!
Lundy Bancroft's Peak Living Network has many principles that run counter to God's Word. By now it's no secret that there are warnings on the Internet — including on our blog dating back to 2017 (here) — about attending Lundy Bancroft's healing retreats. If any reader has any firsthand knowledge of behaviour by him that… Continue reading Peak Living Network – Lundy Bancroft – warning!
Blindness exacerbated by individual choice – part 3 of series on blindness and deception
The choices a person makes can bring the person into even more blindness. This is Part 3 of a series addressing the questions: Are abusers spiritually blind? (Or psychologically blind, which is pretty much the same thing.) Are abusers deceived? If they are deceived, to what extent have they been deceived by others and to… Continue reading Blindness exacerbated by individual choice – part 3 of series on blindness and deception
3. Chris Moles gets the gender issues right in domestic abuse & Christianity
I honour Chris Moles for how he deals with the gender issues in domestic abuse. Here are five good things he says on gender and gender differences. 1. He says that men are much less likely than women to live in fear. He rightly points out that a man can do certain behaviors to his… Continue reading 3. Chris Moles gets the gender issues right in domestic abuse & Christianity