Sometimes a man courts or dates a woman and she thinks he is fine. But after they marry he reveals his abusive nature. This can happen to any woman.
Tag: identifying abusers
broad term that relates to identifying an abuser once in a long term relationship
Are you walking on eggshells?
If you feel like you are walking on eggshells... ....you may be suffering from domestic abuse, which is persistent or recurrent behaviour by an intimate partner that causes physical, sexual or psychological damage, or causes the victim to live in fear. It is not just marital conflict over particular issues (which can be conflict between… Continue reading Are you walking on eggshells?
Discerning the difference between a victim and a liar: lessons from “Pride and Prejudice”
Most abusers claim to be victims. This is one of the reasons why genuine victims are often disbelieved when they disclose the abuse. When both spouses are claiming to be victims, church leaders often find it hard to tell who is lying. It's a dilemma for the church leaders, and it's devastating for the genuine… Continue reading Discerning the difference between a victim and a liar: lessons from “Pride and Prejudice”
Tillamook testimony concerning Jeff Crippen
Tillamook Speaks presents witness / survivor testimony from someone who used to belong to Jeff Crippen's church in Tillamook. It is published by Sister, who is a regular commenter here. The Tillamook survivor, "Chris" (a pseudonym), contacted Sister and myself. Sister and I know Chris's real name but at Chris's request we are not disclosing… Continue reading Tillamook testimony concerning Jeff Crippen
Joseph Tested His Brothers — Digest
Here are the six posts in my series Joseph Tested His Brothers. The story of Joseph testing his brothers illustrates how to test whether an abuser has truly reformed, and how to discern true reformation from pseudo-reformation. 1. Joseph tested his brothers by falsely accusing them 2. The second test Joseph gave his brothers 3. Reconciled with… Continue reading Joseph Tested His Brothers — Digest
The second test Joseph gave his brothers
Joseph, as Governor of Egypt, had begun testing his brothers by falsely accusing them of being spies. He had retained Simeon in custody and instructed the other nine brothers to return home and come again to Egypt bringing their youngest brother Benjamin with them. (see part 1 of this series) Their father Jacob was very… Continue reading The second test Joseph gave his brothers
Pounding the facts; pounding the witness; pounding the table
Here is a way to identify whether someone is a genuine shepherd or a hireling-cum-wolf. Ask yourself, “Is this person pounding the facts? Or are they just pounding the witness or pounding the table?” This post is a recapitulation and coda to Part 3 of my series about Sheep, Shepherds and Wolves. The questions in… Continue reading Pounding the facts; pounding the witness; pounding the table