Tag Archives: identifying abusers
Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser/psychopath
Guest ♦ 7th March 2020 ♦ 78 Comments
Guest post by James Many ‘ordinary’ people can go from calm to angry very quickly given the right circumstances. But only those with personality disorders (psychopaths etc) can go from anger to calm in an instant. It is a huge ‘tell-tale’. [Update — James has clarified this even more: Going from anger to charming in …
Apologies—the good and the bad. Wade Mullen’s wisdom from observing institutional apologies.
Barbara Roberts ♦ 21st July 2019 ♦ 35 Comments
Fake apologies employ self-justification. They appease just enough to quell resistance. They excuse the abusers and condemn the victims. Real apologies involve surrender, confession, recognition and empathy. What I’ve Observed When Institutions Try to Apologize and How They Can Do Better by Wade Mullen. Too often the words “We are sorry” are casually offered and …
Abusers cleverly disguise themselves. You will see what looks like Christ’s fruit, but He is not their root.
Guest ♦ 8th July 2019 ♦ 2 Comments
There are so many horrifying aspects to abusers. But one of the WORST is how they can and do cleverly disguise themselves. They can appear very nice, very kind and very friendly. They can even be encouraging, open minded and generous. And they can appear warm, affectionate and attentive as well. And others around them …
Diane Langberg is advocating for abuse victims, but… (pt 3 of series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)
Barbara Roberts ♦ 6th March 2019 ♦ 61 Comments
I know many victims and victim-advocates have found Diane Langberg’s work valuable. In her counseling, public speaking and writing she is raising awareness about abuse. She is reaching conservative leaders and she’s trained many counselors and church-goers about how to identify and respond to abuse, trauma and narcissistic leadership. Diane is one of the training …
The righteous and the wicked have very different goals
Barbara Roberts ♦ 3rd February 2019 ♦ 7 Comments
The desire of the righteous is only good, But the expectation of the wicked is wrath. Proverbs 11:23 (NKJ) The righteous want peace, mutual respect, and safety. The wicked covertly stir things up by manipulating other people to become enraged at each other. Having sowed the seeds of the conflict, the wicked one walks away …
Was Paul an abuser before he was converted?
Barbara Roberts ♦ 30th November 2018 ♦ 33 Comments
Prior to his conversion, Paul was on a religious crusade to crush the idea that this dead guy Jesus was the Messiah. Paul thought that idea was blasphemous to God, so he was trying to stop it spreading. He was wanting to protect the people of God from being sucked into that error. He fervently persecuted Christians, …
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