Barbara Roberts ♦ 3rd December 2021 ♦ 15 Comments
Meredith Miller is a trauma coach. She teaches the mindsets, skills and actions to help people recover after relational trauma. In this video she talks about cognitive dissonance, emotional short-circuiting, trauma-based mind control, and awakening to the fact that you are being abused. She describes how having power over others is addictive. The abuser wants …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 7th June 2018 ♦ 9 Comments
[June 13, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] I am learning Who Jesus is on a personal Christian – not “C”hristian – basis. I am still missing the heart connection, trying to get past the non-stop force-feeding …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 2nd June 2018 ♦ 13 Comments
Jesus healed a man who had been blind from birth. Some of the man’s neighbours—people who had known him as a blind person for all his life—were doubting and suspicious. In their unbelief they brought the man to the religious leaders (Pharisees) for assessment and verification of the ‘right way’ to interpret this strange event. …
Guest ♦ 11th December 2017 ♦ 17 Comments
A thesaurus tells my story… I read a sentence today that literally jumped off the page at me. I am just me, undiminished in size or power. I kept reading it over and over. It was like I was seeing myself in a mirror for the first time in years. I was recognizing the true me …
Jeff Crippen ♦ 14th September 2017 ♦ 1 Comment
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, …
Jeff Crippen ♦ 31st August 2017 ♦ 1 Comment
UPDATE Sept 2021: Barbara Roberts has come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised …
The definition of abuse: A pattern of coercive control (ongoing actions or inactions) that proceeds from a mentality of entitlement to power, whereby, through intimidation, manipulation and isolation, the abuser keeps his* target subordinated and under his control. This pattern can be emotional, verbal, psychological, spiritual, sexual, financial, social and physical. Not all these elements need be present, e.g., physical abuse may not be part of it.
The definition of domestic abuser: a family member or dating partner (current or ex) who has a profound mentality of entitlement to the possession of power and control over the one s/he* chooses to mistreat. This mentality of entitlement defines the very essence of the abuser. The abuser believes he is justified in using evil tactics to obtain and maintain that power and control.
* Sometimes the genders are reversed—see our tag for 'male survivors' (tags tab in the top menu).
To say that abusers cannot change removes responsibility for sin. They can change, but the vast majority choose not to, which is what the experts state. When God punishes them, their punishment is just. Abusers have options for treatment and are accountable.
Once the marriage covenant is broken through abuse, the abused partner does not need to stay in the marriage waiting for the abuser to change. The abuser's recovery is a separate issue and his change is his own responsibility, not his wife's. This is the mistake most churches make. These churches have over-sentimentalized marriage and are legalists.
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