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Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt

Some people teach that when an abuse victim is rebuking the abuser, the victim must do so in a way that shows evident love and respect for the abuser. Is that teaching in the Bible, or is it a doctrine which people have invented? Let me show you an example of that teaching. I adapted …

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Dignity compared to Pride; Forgive and Remember – by Jane Bartelmes

Is Your Dignity at Stake, or Just Your Pride? Forgive and Remember. To read these two excellent articles by Jane Bartlemas, click here. Jane is the author of My Path from Doormat To Dignity, a book which I (Barb Roberts) am going to read. Jane’s website is Doormat to Dignity

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Family – is blood thicker than water?

UPDATE Sept 2021:  I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches.  He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let …

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Jesus wouldn’t treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people – from Hadassah’s Legacy

[Updated 08/26/20] While the Hadassah’s Legacy website upon which this ACFJ blog post was based was active as of 08/26/20, the Hadassah’s Legacy website owner informed ACFJ the website will, at some point, be taken offline. The link in this ACFJ blog post has been updated to reflect where the original Hadassah’s Legacy link was …

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The Gray Rock Method (or, the Grey Rock Method)*

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
One of our dear readers turned our attention toward this article here: The Gray Rock Method of Dealing with Psychopaths Note from Barb Roberts, added 6 Aug 2013 — the author of the article above goes by the name of Skylar on her current blog; we have changed…

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When it’s not safe to spend Christmas with family

Some survivors of abuse make the decision that it is not wise to spend Christmas with family. Others predetermine strict boundaries about how and where they will participate in family gatherings. And for some people it is simply impossible to spend Christmas with family or friends. (John 7:1-13) After that, Jesus went about in Galilee, …

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