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Family – is blood is thicker than water?

“Blood is thicker than water” is often used to coerce victims of abuse to comply with the sinful beliefs and behaviour patterns within a family system.  It is used to intimidate and extract loyalty from a member of the family whose conscience is more active and biblically guided than the rest of the family – …

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Jesus wouldn’t treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people – from Hadassah’s Legacy

If traditional beliefs about marriage and divorce compel us to treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people, we’ve messed up! Jesus would never do that. “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” (Gal 6:1) This …

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The Gray Rock Method (or, the Grey Rock Method)*

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
One of our dear readers turned our attention toward this article here: The Gray Rock Method of Dealing with Psychopaths Note from Barb Roberts, added 6 Aug 2013 — the author of the article above goes by the name of Skylar on her current blog; we have changed…

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When it’s not safe to spend Christmas with family

Some survivors of abuse make the decision that it is not wise to spend Christmas with family. Others predetermine strict boundaries about how and where they will participate in family gatherings. And for some people it is simply impossible to spend Christmas with family or friends. (John 7:1-13) After that, Jesus went about in Galilee, …

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I would love to reconcile with my dad. But I need to see repentance.

I grew up in a Christian home. I should clarify, my mother’s faith was always an inspiration to me, but all I saw with my father’s so-called faith was hypocrisy and using the Bible as a weapon against others. Then one day, my mother came to me weeping over my father’s actions towards her. She …

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For the Kingdom! – A survivor of domestic abuse tells her story

There was an unhealthy dynamic in our marriage. But generosity, forbearance and patience are not sins, while unkindness, unjust accusations, lies and selfishness are. This guest post is by our reader ‘Gaining Momentum’. Many thanks to her for writing it. This feels like it’s been a long time coming – writing down what I want …

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