An abuse survivor’s poetic critique of Josh Butler’s “Beautiful Union”

A poetic 'sensitivity review' of Josh Butler's "Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (sort of) Explains Everything". PS. it's a terrible book. Josh is entranced by flights of fancy, sacred temple conjugal blooms— "the generous sacrifice" by men who orgasms seed hospitable wombs.

James Dobson’s article “A Violent Spouse”

What is wrong with James Dobson's reply to this letter from an abused wife?  I invite my readers to analyse and critique the advice Dobson gives. Note: Dobson's article was published at his blog in 2015. It appears to have been scrubbed from his site now, but it can be found in the Internet Archive… Continue reading James Dobson’s article “A Violent Spouse”

“Ribbing Him Rightly” by Beneth Jones. Seeking comments on this book.

An ACFJ reader has asked me to seek comments on Beneth Jones's book "Ribbing Him Rightly". The book was given to a young engaged woman this ACFJ reader knows. Is the book dangerous? Is it worth reading? Beneth Jones, the wife of Bob Jones III, wrote ten books. Thousands of people came to Bob Jones… Continue reading “Ribbing Him Rightly” by Beneth Jones. Seeking comments on this book.

Does Scripture differentiate between ‘putting away’ and ‘divorce’?

Some people claim we can cut through the knotty DIVORCE scriptures by simply differentiating words and their meanings. Their argument goes like this: (i) The Hebrew word shalach and the Greek word apoluo should be translated 'put away'. Both of those words are used for the husband orally dismissing and sending away his wife without… Continue reading Does Scripture differentiate between ‘putting away’ and ‘divorce’?

Jay Adams taught counselors to side with male abusers and against female victims.

A guest post by Valerie Jacobsen. Misogynistic bias is a real thing, and it is very obvious here. Painfully obvious. Jay Adams is TEACHING counselors to side with male abusers and against female victims. He is TEACHING them to overlook crimes. So, if you have ever been in nouthetic counseling or "biblical" counseling and have… Continue reading Jay Adams taught counselors to side with male abusers and against female victims.

Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick's work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie's work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims' comments and I will give links to their original comments… Continue reading Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

David Clarke is another self-styled ‘expert’ on domestic abuse and Focus On The Family are promoting him.

Focus On The Family are promoting David Clarke and his book I Don't Want a Divorce: a 90-Day Guide to Saving Your Marriage. David Clarke does not understand enough about the dynamics of domestic abuse to offer counsel on this. One of our long time followers emailed me about David Clarke. Here is the gist… Continue reading David Clarke is another self-styled ‘expert’ on domestic abuse and Focus On The Family are promoting him.