Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt – ways recipients of abuse may respond to their abusers – Gary Pfeifer

“Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt” — these are some of the ways recipients of abuse might respond to their abusers. In his post Separation from my body to escape suffering, Gary Pfeifer talks about this. If any readers think that recipients of abuse are silly or stupid for responding to abuse by fawning, feigning… Continue reading Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt – ways recipients of abuse may respond to their abusers – Gary Pfeifer

Dignity compared to Pride; Forgive and Remember – by Jane Bartelmes

Is Your Dignity at Stake, or Just Your Pride? Forgive and Remember. To read these two excellent articles by Jane Bartelmes, click here [Internet Archive link]. Jane is the author of My Path from Doormat To Dignity, a book which I (Barb Roberts) am going to read. Jane's website is Doormat to Dignity [Internet Archive… Continue reading Dignity compared to Pride; Forgive and Remember – by Jane Bartelmes

Still here — emerging from a slough of despond

Last year I promised to revise my book Not Under Bondage and publish the revised version in paperback, e-book and audio-book formats. I have made substantial progress but am still some way from publishing the revised version. I apologise for the delay. I got sidetracked and slowed down by Covid (didn't we all?) and I… Continue reading Still here — emerging from a slough of despond

Peak Living Network – Lundy Bancroft – warning!

[July 9, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Lundy Bancroft's Peak Living Network has many principles that run counter to God's Word. By now it's no secret that there are warnings on the Internet — including on… Continue reading Peak Living Network – Lundy Bancroft – warning!

A dog’s experience of domestic abuse

Jenny's Story: Observations of Life from a Three Year Old 'Sheltie' Jenny's story was written by 'Kathryn', who uses a pseudonym because her X gets in stalking mode when the mood strikes him. Kathryn’s blog is Escaping the ‘trap’ of domestic violence. [Re-blogged with Kathryn's permission.] Possible trigger warning for those who have witnessed animal abuse—but… Continue reading A dog’s experience of domestic abuse

Suicide Prevention

[June 7, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] If you have ever felt suicidal, dear reader, what strategies have you used to avoid ending your life? Maybe by sharing our experiences we can help others. Helovesme said:… Continue reading Suicide Prevention

Walking Through Abuse with a Loved One – Jacob and Rachael Denhollander share their experiences

Rachael suffered sexual abuse as a child, from two male perpetrators. One was a church leader, the other was Dr Larry Nassar who is now in jail for abusing multiple girls in his role as doctor for high level gymnasts. Rachael's husband, Jacob, is not a survivor of sexual abuse. Rachael and Jacob describe how… Continue reading Walking Through Abuse with a Loved One – Jacob and Rachael Denhollander share their experiences