Augustine believed that Christ says to women, “In so far as your husband behaves badly, don’t regard him as your head, but me.”

In so far as your husband behaves badly, don't regard him as your head, but Christ. Don't imitate your husband's wrongful behaviour, don't behave badly yourself, but let him imitate you in behaving well. If only he would!

How to prevent young men’s violence — lecture by Linda Coates and Allan Wade

Many abuse-prevention materials are reproducing the problem. They’re making the abuse invisible, they're reducing the responsibility of the offender, shifting blame to the victim, and minimizing the harm done by interpersonal violence.