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Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt – ways recipients of abuse may respond to their abusers – Gary Pfeifer

“Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt” — these are some of the ways recipients of abuse might respond to their abusers. In his post Separation from my body to escape suffering, Gary Pfeifer talks about this. If any readers think that recipients of abuse are silly or stupid for responding to abuse by fawning, feigning …

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Is it always sinful to tell an untruth — Digest

A list of all the posts in my series “Is it always sinful to tell an untruth?” If I ever get the time to write more posts in this series, I will add them to this list. 1.  Is it always sinful to tell an untruth? 2.  When is it okay to not tell the truth? 3.  Contriving …

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Malachi 2:16, ancient versions and English translations, and how they apply to domestic abuse — a paper by Barbara Roberts

The translation and application of Malachi 2:16 is very significant when dealing with domestic abuse. I have published a paper Malachi 2:16, ancient versions and English translations, and how they apply to domestic abuse. The paper examines and compares the ancient textual witnesses to that verse, how the verse has been variously translated into English, …

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If a man hates his wife he should set her free from the marriage. That’s what Malachi 2:16 says.

Many Christians believe that God hates divorce. This mistaken idea comes from mis-translations of Malachi 2:16. I have been rebutting the idea that ‘God hates divorce’ since 2008. I wrote about it in my book Not Under Bondage. I am in the process of revising my book and the chapter on Malachi will be entirely …

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What does ‘pray continually’ really mean?

Like a man in prison ever desires to be delivered, whether he be eating or drinking or sleeping, and like someone who is sick desires always to be whole, so every true Christian prays continually – yea, even when he seems not to pray. For prayer consists not in much babbling (Matthew 6:7) but in …

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Family – is blood is thicker than water?

“Blood is thicker than water” is often used to coerce victims of abuse to comply with the sinful beliefs and behaviour patterns within a family system.  It is used to intimidate and extract loyalty from a member of the family whose conscience is more active and biblically guided than the rest of the family – …

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