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Category Archives: Abusers

Relationship Abuse: the Short Story

Male abuse is based on sexual entitlement, says relationship counselor Don Hennessy, and every abused woman senses this. We must take focus from the woman and put it onto the abuser, challenging his attitudes on sex. It is his responsibility to seek permission, not hers to refuse (or allow). The Bible itself condemns men’s sexual …

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The abuser’s deceptive way of asking questions; and Jesus’ shrewd use of questions to stymie the wicked

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
Telling the truth is central to Christianity. In the lead-up to my conversion, God pricked me multiple times about how I was a liar and I had to stop doing it.  Buckling on the belt of truth is the first step in donning the armor of God. If we don’t put on truth, the rest…

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Abusers cleverly disguise themselves. You will see what looks like Christ’s fruit, but He is not their root.

There are so many horrifying aspects to abusers. But one of the WORST is how they can and do cleverly disguise themselves. They can appear very nice, very kind and very friendly. They can even be encouraging, open minded and generous. And they can appear warm, affectionate and attentive as well. And others around them …

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Abusers know no shame

Zephaniah 3:1-5 Woe to the city that is rebellious and defiled, the oppressive city! 2 She has not obeyed; she has not accepted discipline. She has not trusted in the Lord; she has not drawn near to her God. 3 The princes within her are roaring lions; her judges are wolves of the night, which leave nothing …

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The righteous and the wicked have very different goals

The desire of the righteous is only good, But the expectation of the wicked is wrath. Proverbs 11:23 (NKJ) The righteous want peace, mutual respect, and safety. The wicked covertly stir things up by manipulating other people to become enraged at each other. Having sowed the seeds of the conflict, the wicked one walks away …

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Abusers are empowered by pastors who are not careful how they teach about marriage

John Wesley wrote in his diary: I talked with one who, by the advice of his Pastor, had, very calmly and deliberately, beat his wife with a large stick, till she was black and blue, almost from head to foot. And he insisted, it was his duty so to do, because she was surly and …

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