The Sci-Fi Series Part 2: The Wraith
The Wraith are a vampiric hive-based species that harvest the ‘life-force’ of other humanoid beings for nourishment through suckers on their right hand palm. — Wiki
It seems to me that X is part Wraith. Encounters with him leave me feeling like years have been shaved off my life. I didn’t recognize this when we were together. After we separated I went NC (no contact) with him and I started to feel like I could think and function. Then we started talking again and I’d end up feeling like I’d been hit by a truck. I got physically ill! It would take a couple of days to recover from going to dinner with the man.
I wonder why he does this. Does he receive some kind of “nourishment” from seeing me suffer?
So boredom is a constant problem for sociopaths and they have an incessant urge to keep up a high level of stimulation. Even negative stimulation — drama, worry, upset, etc. — is more tolerable to a sociopath than boredom. — Adam Khan [Internet Archive link]
I don’t know that his goal is to see me suffering. Perhaps he’s only addicted to drama. He did LOVE to get into excessively emotional confrontations with other drivers that didn’t follow his driving code. I think he savors the high that comes from confrontation. I do not. I desire peace. Drama drains my “life-force.” Even now he seems to be on a quest to provoke a response from me. I have minimal contact with him. I guard my responses to keep them all business. I hope that Gray Rocks* do not provide any nourishment for the Wraith in my galaxy.
Psa 120:6-7 Too long have I had my dwelling among those who hate peace. I am for peace, but when I speak, they are for war!
The more I limit contact with X, the healthier I am. In every way. I can think. I can focus. I can enjoy my life! I am learning to think without his critical comments (spoken or unspoken, I was always aware of them) heckling my ideas. I am learning to focus without being interrupted to tend to his demands. I am learning to enjoy life without having to be hyper-vigilant, constantly patrolling for things that will upset him and invite his wrath. I can simply enjoy my kids, free of worry that they will do something to embarrass him or something that will reveal some deficit in my parenting. Surely the kids have more peace now too. Surely their little hearts were sensitive to his constant state of disapproval.
Have you learned to keep the Wraith in your life from harvesting your life-force?
Want to share your Wraith repelling tips?
* Addit from Barb, Nov 2014: the color is spelled grAy in America, but grEy in England. Go figure!
Posts in this series
Part 1: You will be assimilated.
Part 2: Is this post.
Part 3: Marilyn Munster
Part 4: The Mind Meld