A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Author Archive: Ellie

Evacuate! — an analogy for getting out of abusive marriages

Evacuate. GET OUT of collapsing buildings. We are republishing this post in honour of the victims of 9/11, and because, just like the firemen in the Twin Towers who didn’t have a chance to put the fire out, we didn’t have a chance to have healthy marriages. And that was all we were trying to …

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Ashley Madison and the Church

The Ashley Madison data hack is already making ripples by exposing high profile evangelicals who have (now) acknowledged having accounts. I predict this is only the beginning. How should the Church respond when people who have been masquerading as Christians are exposed as adulterers? I would like to ask you to: Care for their souls before their reputations. Care for …

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You’re Not Like Them

A while back I witnessed a car accident. As I was pulling over to check on the drivers, the car that was at fault [car A] drove away. I was already on the phone with the police, so I nonchalantly followed the car to give the license information. The car that was hit [car B] caught up …

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Real Life Examples of Verbal Abuse

1. Belittling sarcasm, male privilege, verbal abuse disguised as a joke and played to an audience I was at a home decor store the other day and there was this 50 something year old man wearing golf clothes holding two metal post things that you’d hang planters on. His wife and either her mom or his mom – a woman …

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A Translation of Cleveland Cavs Apology Statement

I read this story about a spoof video depicting abuse that the Cleveland Cavs showed during a time out recently and the statement they issued about it. And, of course, I translated it and wanted to share it with you. Trigger warning for this video: [The above video link is broken and there is no replacement. …

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Is judging a sin?

I have been pondering the “judge” term as it’s used in our culture. I think we fear committing the sin of judging. But is it the judging we are supposed to avoid — the evaluating a person’s actions and determining if they are right or wrong? I don’t think it is. I think what we …

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Terms used to minimize abuse

Feathers ruffled — Makes one party the equivalent of a giant bird. Scuffle — Sounds so harmless, just a scuffle. Nothing to be concerned with. Tiff — Really, anything that has 2 Fs in it can’t be so bad. Disagreement — Sin levels by mutualizing. Makes abuse look like a difference of opinion that could …

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