The Sci-Fi Series part 4: The Mind Meld
A “mind-meld” is a technique for sharing thoughts, experiences, memories, and knowledge with another individual, essentially a limited form of telepathy — Wiki
Looks a great deal like this:
Equilibrium for Narcissists is a state of fusion with others who have something they need. Whether the Narcissist deliberately sets out to undermine your autonomy or just ignores your separate existence, that predisposition to fusion means that you will not only be expected to do what the Narcissist wants but to also know what that is, to want it yourself, and – this is important – to be able to produce it. It is as if you must live inside the Narcissist’s head, share her thoughts and feelings, and be able to perform things that even she isn’t able to do. Anything else is an affront to her Narcissistic sense of entitlement and need for perfect mirroring. Why Is It Always About You? — p 142
In his rational moments X realised that he thought I should be able to read his mind and that it was crazy. But when he wasn’t rational… “Why is it so hot in here?” he’d scream. And my response was to turn the AC down or locate a fan to aim at him or put a cool towel on his feet. He screamed his question because he had been thinking about how hot he was for some time. Thinking it, and thinking it, and THINKING IT and I wasn’t responding to his thoughts. So he screamed and belittled. It was OBVIOUSLY too hot and I should’ve noticed it and if I cared about him at all I never would’ve let it get to that point. So he screamed because he was hot and he screamed because he was neglected. Nope. He screamed because he is a selfish abuser.
Trekkies, don’t read any farther.
You were warned and your angry comments will be moderated.
Vulcans are not real. There’s no such thing as a mind-meld. “My mind to your mind… my thoughts to your thoughts…” won’t help me know if he’s hot or hungry or thirsty. I can’t read X’s thoughts and I shouldn’t have been expected to or screamed at or berated when I didn’t. It has taken a while to get free of this mindset. If I ever remarry, I don’t know what to expect. But I know that X’s mind-meld mentality was
wait for it
Posts in this series
Part 1: You will be assimilated.
Part 2: The Wraith
Part 3: Marilyn Munster
Part 4: Is this post.