In psychological abuse, the abuser conveys messages in order to steer and control the feelings, thinking and behaviour of his target. This article compares messages used by domestic abusers with messages used by governments and corporate media. Understanding the similarities and parallels may help you make sense of the confusion that is around you. We… Continue reading Messages used by psychological abusers — domestic abusers and governments
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Stockholm Syndrome: isolation, perceived acts of kindness, perceived life threat, perceived inablity to escape.
The Stockholm Syndrome explains why people stay in abusive situations, why people cannot see the evidence that it is an abusive situation, and why victims of abuse can remain irrationally loyal to the abuser. In this article, I have loosely transcribed Meredith Miller's explanation of the four parameters of Stockholm Syndrome and added a few… Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: isolation, perceived acts of kindness, perceived life threat, perceived inablity to escape.
This blog was accidentally suspended by WordPress
What a week! The automatic spam filter used by WordPress suspended this blog for about 24 hours. I contacted WordPress to ask them why they had suspended the blog. Many hours later they emailed me saying it was an accident and they reinstated the blog. I've known for a long time that WordPress's spam filter… Continue reading This blog was accidentally suspended by WordPress
Are you walking on eggshells?
If you feel like you are walking on eggshells... ....you may be suffering from domestic abuse, which is persistent or recurrent behaviour by an intimate partner that causes physical, sexual or psychological damage, or causes the victim to live in fear. It is not just marital conflict over particular issues (which can be conflict between… Continue reading Are you walking on eggshells?
Meredith Miller on abuse dynamics — from the micro to the macro level.
Meredith Miller is a trauma coach. She teaches the mindsets, skills and actions to help people recover after relational trauma. In this video she talks about cognitive dissonance, emotional short-circuiting, trauma-based mind control, and awakening to the fact that you are being abused. She describes how having power over others is addictive. The abuser wants… Continue reading Meredith Miller on abuse dynamics — from the micro to the macro level.
Naghmeh’s story Part 2
Naghmeh Pahani's second interview with Julie Roys has been published. I highly commend it. Naghmeh’s Story: Abuse and Betrayal Behind #SaveSaeed, Part II If you have suffered domestic abuse, I think you will find things you relate to in Naghmeh's story. If you want to help victims of domestic abuse, I think you will learn… Continue reading Naghmeh’s story Part 2
Naghmeh Abedini tells of abuse and betrayal behind #SaveSaeed — interview by Julie Roys
Naghmeh Abedini Panahi endured horrific abuse from her husband Saeed, who was a pastor. Like most Christian women who are abused by their husbands, it took Naghmeh many years to realise that she was an abused woman. The purity culture in churches, common misinterpretations of Proverbs 31 and other scriptures, her Iranian cultural background and… Continue reading Naghmeh Abedini tells of abuse and betrayal behind #SaveSaeed — interview by Julie Roys