Barbara Roberts ♦ 21st June 2019 ♦ 1 Comment
Men must NOT treat their wives as persons they can disrespect or demean. The law in Deuteronomy 21:10-14 is designed to restrain misogyny. Deuteronomy 21 stipulates that if an Israelite man took a female prisoner of war (POW) as his wife, he must first allow her time to grieve her losses. He could not just …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 17th June 2019 ♦ 28 Comments
Some people claim we can cut through the knotty DIVORCE scriptures by simply differentiating words and their meanings. Their argument goes like this: (i) The Hebrew word shalach and the Greek word apoluo should be translated ‘put away’. Both of those words are used for the husband orally dismissing and sending away his wife without …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 17th May 2019 ♦ 2 Comments
For centuries Jewish religious leaders have insisted that in order for a divorce to be legal, the husband must write a certificate of divorce. The essential words in the certificate were “You are free to marry any man”. Jews call this divorce certificate a ‘get’ – it is a Hebrew word unrelated to our English …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 6th May 2019 ♦ 39 Comments
Jesus didn’t say “Hardness of heart is grounds for divorce”. In Deuteronomy 24, Moses didn’t say that hardness of heart is grounds for divorce, he only set limitations on the future conduct of men who chose to divorce their wives. That is the take-home message of this post. In this series I am doing my …
Barbara Roberts ♦ 16th July 2018 ♦ 11 Comments
The Bible makes a distinction between unintentional sin and intentional sin. This is important when we consider how we, as Christians, are to respond to domestic abusers. The distinction is set out in the Law which Moses gave to the people of Israel. Numbers 15:22-31, NKJ – Laws Concerning Unintentional Sin If you sin unintentionally, and do …
Jeff Crippen ♦ 30th June 2017 ♦ 3 Comments
If your brother, the son of your mother, or your son or your daughter or the wife you embrace or your friend who is as your own soul entices you secretly, saying, ‘Let us go and serve other gods,’ which neither you nor your fathers have known, some of the gods of the peoples who …
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The definition of abuse: A pattern of coercive control (ongoing actions or inactions) that proceeds from a mentality of entitlement to power, whereby, through intimidation, manipulation and isolation, the abuser keeps his* target subordinated and under his control. This pattern can be emotional, verbal, psychological, spiritual, sexual, financial, social and physical. Not all these elements need be present, e.g., physical abuse may not be part of it.
The definition of domestic abuser: a family member or dating partner (current or ex) who has a profound mentality of entitlement to the possession of power and control over the one s/he* chooses to mistreat. This mentality of entitlement defines the very essence of the abuser. The abuser believes he is justified in using evil tactics to obtain and maintain that power and control.
* Sometimes the genders are reversed—see our tag for 'male survivors' (tags tab in the top menu).
To say that abusers cannot change removes responsibility for sin. They can change, but the vast majority choose not to, which is what the experts state. When God punishes them, their punishment is just. Abusers have options for treatment and are accountable.
Once the marriage covenant is broken through abuse, the abused partner does not need to stay in the marriage waiting for the abuser to change. The abuser's recovery is a separate issue and his change is his own responsibility, not his wife's. This is the mistake most churches make. These churches have over-sentimentalized marriage and are legalists.
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