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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Salvation is not a ‘spiritual bargain’ you can make with God

Salvation is much mis-taught and misunderstood in Christendom. ABUSERS who claim to be Christians could be roughly divided into two groups: the ones who genuinely think they are Christians, and the ones who intentionally lie in their claim to be Christians. The abusers who genuinely think they are Christians may be thinking they are saved …

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Comforting My Church With the Comfort They Gave – by Julie Cleaveland

Julie Cleaveland was married to a very wicked man. When she sought help from her church, she got the usual bad treatments. She published this letter to her former church leaders to highlight the bias in their thinking. Dear Former Church Leaders, I was surprised to hear that your head pastor and you parted ways …

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Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie’s work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims’ comments and I will give links to their original comments …

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11 Chris Moles discredits and mislabels victims of domestic abuse

Chris disapproves of survivors having a victim identity or victim-hood status. He conveys the idea that victims are somehow wrong to be so aware of their victim-hood. It’s an interesting thing in the victim-care work, that many victims’ identity will be so tied to their victim-hood status. And one of the things biblical counselors have …

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When Ps Jason Meyer mutualized the blame in domestic abuse

In a video posted by Bethlehem Baptist Church, Pastor Jason Meyer introduced Pastor Chris Moles’ presentation on domestic abuse at Bethlehem Baptist Church. Meyer explained headship and submission and he gave an example of how he counseled an ‘insensitive husband’. Meyer told the husband, “You’re tearing each other apart”. By saying ‘each other’ Jason Meyer …

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“Redemptive Divorce” by Mark Gaither — another bad book for domestic abuse

Redemptive Divorce by Mark Gaither is marketed on Amazon with this blurb: A graceful, biblical way to reclaim sanity for the home and dignity for the suffering spouse in a dysfunctional or dangerous marriage. Thousands of conscientious believers wanting to honor the sacred vows they took before God suffer in dysfunctional, even dangerous marriages. Each …

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