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Thursday Thought — Shifting Sands

Your partner has too many rules.  There are all kinds of things that have to be done just so, in the way he considers correct, or he’s going to have a fit. Everything has to be his way. And as if that weren’t stressful enough, the rules keep changing, so there’s no way to even …

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Thursday Thought — The Slow Build of Harm

I have heard the effects of living with an abusive partner compared to (get ready for this) a frog being boiled alive.  They say that if you threw a frog into hot water, it would jump back out immediately, alive and with only minor injuries.  If, on the other hand, you put the frog into …

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Thursday Thought — How Do I Make Conflicts with Him Go Better?

You have perhaps noticed that I haven’t written about how you can resolve conflicts with your partner more constructively.  That’s no accident.  I don’t believe that a woman can make things go better with a controlling or abusive man by changing how she argues with him.  Some people may say that you should bring things …

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Thursday Thought — Feeling Like You’ll Never Get Over This

After enough times of being torn apart by your partner’s cruel side, you can come to feel like nothing could ever put you back together again, and like the pain will never go away. But it will.  You aren’t always going to feel this bad.  Healing is a long process, especially when you’ve been harmed …

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Thursday Thought — His Attachment to Payback

Women who are in unhealthy relationships struggle with the question “Is my partner’s behavior normal?” You may wonder whether the problem is that you’re just too sensitive, or that your expectations are unrealistic.  One way to get clear on the nature of your partner’s problem is to notice when he gets you back for doing …

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Thursday Thought — Lundy Bancroft: Strategies for Healing from Domestic Abuse & Avoiding Abusers

As many of you know we highly recommend Lundy Bancroft and his books.  (His books are listed on our Resources.) In addition to his books, we also have made our readers aware of Youtube videos of presentations by Lundy. IMPORTANT NOTE:  While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend …

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