When I'm listening to a person who is complaining about their spouse or their marriage, I want to discern whether they are a victim or a perpetrator. Does this mean I am suspicious of all disclosures of abuse? Yes; and no. In most cases, the person's words (and body language, if I'm able to see… Continue reading The language of abusers who portray themselves as victims — Vagueness & Contradictions
Tag: identifying abusers
broad term that relates to identifying an abuser once in a long term relationship
Covert aggression is not the same as passive aggression
In George Simon Jnr's brilliant book Character Disturbance [Affiliate link], he talks a little about passive aggression and distinguishes it from covert aggression. On pages 74-75 he says: Passive-aggression is an often misunderstood and mislabeled personality type. The official psychiatric manual doesn't even recognize this as a personality pattern any more....Unfortunately, clinicians and lay people alike… Continue reading Covert aggression is not the same as passive aggression
