Guest post by James. Many ‘ordinary’ people can go from calm to angry very quickly given the right circumstances. But only those with personality disorders (psychopaths, etc.) can go from anger to calm in an instant. It is a huge ‘tell-tale’. [Update — James has clarified this even more: Going from anger to charming in… Continue reading Going from anger to calm in an instant – a Red Flag of an abuser / psychopath
Tag: identifying abusers
broad term that relates to identifying an abuser once in a long term relationship
Apologies—the good and the bad. Wade Mullen’s wisdom from observing institutional apologies.
Fake apologies employ self-justification. They appease just enough to quell resistance. They excuse the abusers and condemn the victims. Real apologies involve surrender, confession, recognition and empathy. What I’ve Observed When Institutions Try to Apologize and How They Can Do Better by Wade Mullen. Too often the words "We are sorry" are casually offered and… Continue reading Apologies—the good and the bad. Wade Mullen’s wisdom from observing institutional apologies.
