A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Author Archive: Ellie

Terms used to minimize abuse

Feathers ruffled — Makes one party the equivalent of a giant bird. Scuffle — Sounds so harmless, just a scuffle. Nothing to be concerned with. Tiff — Really, anything that has 2 Fs in it can’t be so bad. Disagreement — Sin levels by mutualizing. Makes abuse look like a difference of opinion that could …

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“Don’t be a victim!” — a victim-blaming message that needs to be stopped

  I went to an event designed to help local police and the community to get to know each other. There were tons of officers in uniform, detectives in slacks and sports coats, ADAs in suits, politicians in nicer suits, and Crime Watch Volunteers in pastel jogging suits. They had cookies and coffee. There were brochures on …

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Victim blaming — what should we do about it?

I’ve been considering why people are hesitant to believe reports of abuse. Not just that. I’m considering the responses even when they DO believe it. There is a tendency to blame the targets / victims and I have wondered why that is. And here’s something that’s been a slight comfort to me. It’s not just …

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‘Hurting People Hurt People’

[July 2, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] How often is that one is thrown at targets of abuse? Once a target has mustered the courage to share the truth of what’s happening, people are reluctant to …

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Translation of Brian Williams’s manipulative words

I saw this Brian Williams story [Internet Archive link] and I thought I’d see what he’s up to. Celebrity claiming to apologize? Translation mode ENGAGED! As with the other translation posts, I am writing to expose the manipulative patterns seen here. Here are the original comments: Transcript of Brian Williams’ on-air remarks on 2/4/2015 on “NBC …

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Euphemisms for Sin

I am compiling a list of euphemisms for “sin.” I’ll start with the sin-minimizing terms I’ve seen in articles or heard from megachurch pulpits recently. Moral failure Mistake Flaw Error Problem Indiscretion Oversight Shortcoming Lest these terms get worn out and overused, I have made a list of synonyms that leaders might want to consider …

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