Counseling Victims of Domestic Abuse — by Diane Langberg, PhD
Diane Langberg is a Christian psychologist who we featured at this blog a week ago (here).
Counseling Victims of Domestic Abuse is a presentation Diane gave at the Forum Of Christian Leaders, Budapest, 25 May 2010.
Alternative link to video: http://www.foclonline.org/workshop/counselling-victims-domestic-abuse
In this talk, Diane condemns the way that many Christians minimize the seriousness of what happens in domestic abuse, and she says that the church is not doing a lot to address the issue. She defines abuse as including emotional, verbal, financial, sexual, spiritual and social abuse as well as physical abuse. Likewise, she emphasizes that domestic abuse is a pattern of conduct, not just isolated incidents. And she applies scriptures very well to the issue.
Here are some great quotes from Diane’s presentation:
16’09” When did we start thinking that tolerating abuse in the home was a godly thing to do?
26’30” When God’s people are obedient they reprove abusers and defend the helpless; unfortunately we have often reproved the helpless and protected the abusers. Scripture gives us a basis of holding those who are abusers accountable for their behavior. Scripture says it is the law of love that is to govern a relationship, and abuse of a spouse is a profound abuse of that law.
29’50” So why is it . . . that we have often placed the burden on the victim to justify her actions so that she must somehow prove to us that she didn’t make him do it, rather than dealing with the abuser, calling him to confess his sins and demonstrate true repentance?
30’25” Do we really think protecting a home full of sin is in keeping with the sacred covenant before God?
We would like to thank David Clyde Jones, retired Professor of Biblical Ethics at Covenant Seminary, for pointing us to this video.
Note: Statistics about domestic abuse — relative gendered rates, how the stats apply in various legal scenarios — are contested with claims and counter claims. At this blog we generally steer clear of presenting domestic abuse statistics because it is a subject which we prefer to leave to others. This video does mention a few statistics so, by featuring it, we are going against our normal policy of keeping this blog a statistics-free zone. We welcome comments on the video, but please let’s not get into a heavy debate about the statistics Diane presents. There are other places for exploring statistics on domestic abuse, but we’d rather not do it on this blog. We want to keep the blog a friendly place. 🙂