Untouchable Scriptures, part 2.
[September 17, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.]
Not long ago, we published a post by Megan C (Meg) called Untouchable Scriptures. This is a sequel to Meg’s post.
Many ‘C’hristian abusers use Scriptures to justify their abusiveness. They wickedly distort and put ‘spin’ on Scriptures to coercively control and control their victims, and this often taints particular verses for survivors so badly that many of us feel like we are being knifed in the brain when we hear or read certain verses.
We know this is a common phenomenon for our readers. Particular Scriptures have been so misused that some of us can barely even think about them without being triggered into horrible memories and emotions.
One of our readers, Caleigh, wrote in an article called Quiet Times at her blog Profligate Truth:
….You might say that studying the Bible still makes me skittish. Explaining what the purpose of the Bible is, or what I believe to be God’s purpose with the Bible isn’t something I can do quiet [sic] yet. Questions about studying the Bible, correct interpretations, and things such as that, are difficult for me because I still hear hypocrisy ringing in my ears. [Emphasis added.]
Another way Scriptures can be painful and triggering is if the victim herself interprets certain verses in a stern, iron-jawed, frowning way, a way that seems to set her behind prison bars, locked forever in a cage with her abuser tormenter. That’s how it happened for me: my abuser did not use Scripture to abuse me very much, but I certainly had the devil’s interpretations of certain verses reigning in my head, wielding knives in my conscience whenever I tried to puzzle my way out of the labyrinth.
We’d like this post to be a place where you can share your experiences of this phenomenon. It doesn’t matter if we end up covering ground we’ve already covered on this blog. This is a way of chewing over the old leather from a new perspective.
For me, two of the most painful Scriptures were:
1 Cor 7:4 (I won’t repeat it here in case it is too triggering for readers.) — I felt I had to allow him sex whenever he wanted it and if I said “no” I was disobeying God. The result was that I felt like a prostitute, giving sex just to satisfy him and obey the Bible, while feeling no sexual desire, just a total emptiness and desolation.
1 Peter 3:6 in the King James:
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
I thought that if I became afraid — allowed my fear to rise to the surface and boil in the front of my mind — I was no longer a daughter of Sarah and was therefore outside God’s will.
For a friend of mine, one of her biggies was:
Luke 9:62 (NIV)
….”No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.”
—She thought that meant she could not leave the marriage.
So, would you like to tell us: What are your ‘untouchable Scriptures’? And why?
[September 17, 2022: Editors’ notes:
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