Things I Wish You Understood: An Open Letter to Ministers From a Family Violence Survivor (via TGC Australia)

This stupendous article by an anonymous woman was published yesterday at The Gospel Coalition Australia. Things I Wish You Understood: An Open Letter to Ministers From a Family Violence Survivor To the ministers of the church universal I am a family violence survivor. It seems weird to me to say that, because my experiences don’t… Continue reading Things I Wish You Understood: An Open Letter to Ministers From a Family Violence Survivor (via TGC Australia)

I just hate feeling like I am back at square one when some of these triggers come

[June 17, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] A survivor friend wrote to me recently: Today I got a card from one of my ex's relatives and she wrote inside it, "Jesus died on the cross for ___ and… Continue reading I just hate feeling like I am back at square one when some of these triggers come

EMDR— a therapy for the trigger reactions of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

[August 13, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] This post was contributed by one of our readers. Many thanks to her! *** How many times have we heard people say that any form of psychology is wrong… Continue reading EMDR— a therapy for the trigger reactions of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Making complaint . . . and getting the brush-off

[March 7, 2023: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Someone recently implied (in an email to us) that we ought to be more circumspect and less hasty to judge a Christian organization simply because one of their lower… Continue reading Making complaint . . . and getting the brush-off

Is Silence Golden In Abuse?

In the quiet of the sleepy morning, I find myself, as I often do, on the bottom of the stairs in my home, cuddling my two kids, who are triggering and on high alert. I often am too, in the mornings. The three of us are afraid a lot at that time of day. My… Continue reading Is Silence Golden In Abuse?

Words I Choke On (or used to anyway)

Trigger alert. This is an honest look at how I allowed my warped sense of these words and my conceit to control me and keep me in an unsafe marriage. These are all words that stopped me in my tracks: Abused Abuse Domestic Violence Victim Separated Divorce Divorce papers Single mom Ex Child Support -----------------------------… Continue reading Words I Choke On (or used to anyway)

Tactics: How the Abuser Sets You Up

Note from Jeff C and Barb: we are pleased to announce that Katy is now one of our Authors on the blog. In fact, this is the second post with her byline, but we forgot to announce her joining the team when her first post was published. This post is about ongoing trauma which results… Continue reading Tactics: How the Abuser Sets You Up