When having a conversation with an abuser, the abuser often tries to get you to fall into the explaining trap. It is a trap because no matter how much you explain things to the abuser, the abuser will pretend to not understand or not accept your explanations. And he will keep challenging and criticizing your… Continue reading The Explaining Trap
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Shattering the silence: James’s Story of growing up with an abusive father
I think it's crucial to highlight the myriad stories of church domestic abuse, including the impacts such abuse can have on children. My first memory of violence is of being dragged to my room by my panicked mother, who wanted my siblings and me — I was very young — to be quiet before my… Continue reading Shattering the silence: James’s Story of growing up with an abusive father
