I loved the way he lied. But not anymore.

Lyrics of the song Love the Way You Lie [Internet Archive link]  (Trigger warning. Language warning.) That song. I remember loving and hating it when it came out. We were living far from family, far from my support system and I felt trapped. But I learned how strong I really could be in that situation. I… Continue reading I loved the way he lied. But not anymore.

Abusers’ Addiction To the Upper Hand

My husband, David (who is a pastor), told me a story yesterday about a man at an elder/deacon board meeting at a church a few years back. The meeting was an effort to unite the congregation and staff and create a mission statement and vision for the church. At one point, during an endless talk… Continue reading Abusers’ Addiction To the Upper Hand