WANTED — Fantasy Wife
I am a deeply flawed man looking for the ideal woman to fix my life. She must be willing to give all of her energy, time, and talent to meeting my needs. She will be my rescuer, savior, and strength. This position is only for a very unique woman . . . is it you? Or maybe you are like all the other needy, vindictive, overly independent, unfeminine ladies I see on the street.
I will either hate you or idealize you. Often both at the same time.
I have been called moody and difficult by some. But this is my nature and I refuse to change it. As soon as you change, gain weight, become tired, sad, or angry, I will attack you or leave. This position will remain open until filled or until you read this job offering by mistake.
Do know that I will deny having written this wanted ad and will call you every name under the sun should you discover it by mistake. I’ll call you paranoid, demanding, needy, crazy, rebellious and unsubmissive. Or I may simply rage, break things, and terrorize you and your children. It is always your fault.
I will never . . . repeat . . . never . . .admit that I wrote this or require this . . . but you will understand on some level, the requirements I have. You will courageously attempt to fulfill the duties of “fantasy wife” for many years. Until you become too exhausted, fearful or traumatized to continue. At that time, you may ask me for a vacation or a leave of absence. Under this contract I am not required to give you vacation — ever. Sickness, disability, and childbirth are no exception.
I am accountable to no one, except my own desire to rule. I know enough scripture to use it as a weapon against you and to support my right to dominate your life. I am a cult leader in your home and marriage. I use many recognized tactics of manipulators and mind control. My methods are highly sophisticated, covert and deceptive. It will be difficult to prove my true character, until after much damage has been done.
You feel pity for me, compassion and hope that I will change. But you do not yet understand or know . . . I am not like you. Connection and intimacy are not of value in my world, as they are in yours. I am not able to love . . . in the way you define it.
You will be the only witness to my misdeeds, cruelty and neglect but I will cause you to doubt what you see, feel and experience. I have been grooming you . . . to meet my abusive needs . . . But there is a truth inside you — that my machinations can not suppress.
But when the truth begins to speak . . . deep in your heart . . . it will be a terrifying time for me. I will be losing my true and most valued love . . . control. As it starts to slip away, bit by bit. I will be angry, fearful and depressed. Please do not believe this is an indication of “my true love for you.” I never knew you . . . I am unable to interact with a woman in that way. I am responding to my loss of position, status, power and control.
The further away from me you get, the more glaring the lies will appear. You will then see that you are not unlovely, incapable, foolish, and rejected . . . as I made you feel by word or action. You will learn that my words were lies and my unceasing demands — an invisible prison.
As your wings slowly unfurl, under the loving strong power of the Holy Spirit . . . you will grieve your time with me, miss an image of a man that never existed except in your hopes, but you will be free.
Whereas you have been forsaken and hated
With no one passing through,
I will make you an everlasting pride,
A joy from generation to generation.
[This post was sent in by April. Many thanks to her, and to our Lord who is guiding and upholding her as her wings unfurl.]