If a friend or member of your congregation tells you of the abusive relationship she is enduring, one of the most validating things you can do is to believe her. The validation of being believed empowers the victim and may help her to understand even more clearly the abusive relationship she is in — especially if the… Continue reading Helping an Abuse Victim without being Duped by the Abuser
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Right Back At Ya! The Abuser’s Tactic of Reflective Blaming
Recently I had a refresher course in abuser tactics. Not in a classroom, but in real life. I need these reminders to help me continue to learn how to put into practice what I have learned about abuse. Necessary, because we all so easily revert to our old errors we used to be bound by… Continue reading Right Back At Ya! The Abuser’s Tactic of Reflective Blaming
