Spot the Abuserese
I noticed this news story the other day: Man Banned From All Walmarts for Life [Internet Archive link]. This video and much of the news coverage portrays this guy as a disabled penny pincher who loves taking his grandma to Walmart. I viewed the video and I heard something entirely different. I heard abuserese.
He blames price matching for his being banned instead of his behavior. He declares devotion to Walmart as though he should be excused because he luuvvs the company so much. He never takes any responsibility for his actions or for the fear he is reported to have instilled in the employees. He talks about how HE’s embarrassed and inconvenienced as though he is a victim and not an abuser. Any of this sound familiar? Oh, and he claims that he was just trying to get what was owed to him. He had a right to get a price matched. And in addition to getting mistreated by being denied something he’s entitled to, he’s being required to comply with a boundary. A boundary! How terrible and unjust to give a boundary. Did I miss anything? What did you hear?
I will add that this is a study in abuserese, not price matching, Walmart, or corporations. Keeping the focus on abuserese will help us to recognize it and avoid it and the ensuing confusion brought on by abusers and their spin on events. Before learning to recognize abuserese, I was often confused. Abusers and their allies frame their versions of events with their smooth speech and the fog rolls in. Reading here at ACFJ and at other sites dedicated to exposing abusers’ mindsets and vocabularies has helped me feel more secure, more SANE! And you know how I like to recommend Jeff C’s sanity saving sermons early and often. (And if you want to find Jeff’s sermon series on domestic abuse, click here.)