How many of you have had this hurtful question posed to you by a well-meaning but ignorant-to-domestic-abuse person: "Why didn't you leave?" Barbara has an excellent article that addresses this question and we want to share it with you today. *** Why Didn't You Leave? "Why didn’t you leave?" (or "Why did you go back?") is… Continue reading Why Didn’t You Leave?
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Defining domestic abuse by a list of behaviors is never going to capture it
Quite often authors define domestic abuse by giving a list of behaviors. The list can include things like complaining, accusing, angry looks, name calling, denigrating, yelling, threatening, ordering, demanding, belittling, using sarcasm, showing indifference, lying and deceiving, sulking, withholding sexual intimacy, using physical violence. Here is the problem with trying to define domestic abuse as behaviors: You can't necessarily identify who is… Continue reading Defining domestic abuse by a list of behaviors is never going to capture it
