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Calvinism And Domestic Violence: there’s a correlation but we can’t say Calvinism *causes* domestic violence

[July 11, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] ….there is a correlation between Calvinism and domestic violence….It is not Calvinism per se but mostly males who use Calvinism’s hierarchical theories and sovereignty theories to perform and justify …

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My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church — a reblog from Natalie

Natalie, who blogs at Emotional Abuse Survivor (formerly called Visionary Womanhood), has described the ongoing spiritual abuse that she is suffering from the elders at the church she and her soon-to-be-ex husband were attending.  She posted it on her Facebook page and with her permission we are sharing it with you. My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church  …

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A survivor and I were talking about how her refusal to reconcile with her abuser might get her excommunicated from her beloved church. Her feelings reminded me of untangling from X and his parents. Here are some of the things I wrote to my friend: Leaving X didn’t just cost me the marriage, the house, the …

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Church discipline and church permission for divorce – how my mind has changed

When I wrote Not Under Bondage, I emphasized the application of Matthew 18 for cases of domestic abuse. Here in a nutshell is what I said about this in the first edition of Not Under Bondage. If an abuser is a professing Christian, the victim of abuse should try to follow the steps of Matthew …

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Letter of Resignation from an Abusive Church

This post is a partial re-publication of a post from The Wartburg Watch blog which was written by Dee, one of TWW’s administrators, in Feb 2012. The original post was titled “How to Minimize Damage When Resigning From a Mark Driscoll-like Church.”  You can find the original post here [Internet Archive link]. We are re-publishing …

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Choose your own misadventure

This story is a composite of many many accounts we’ve heard from victims. Take a deep breath,  and select the options that best describe your case from each set of bullet points below. At first my church was okay with me disclosing the abuse to a pastor/ elder/ women’s ministry leader separating for abuse divorcing …

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