A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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A Translation of Cleveland Cavs Apology Statement

I read this story about a spoof video depicting abuse that the Cleveland Cavs showed during a time out recently and the statement they issued about it. And, of course, I translated it and wanted to share it with you. Trigger warning for this video: [The above video link is broken and there is no replacement. …

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Is judging a sin?

I have been pondering the “judge” term as it’s used in our culture. I think we fear committing the sin of judging. But is it the judging we are supposed to avoid — the evaluating a person’s actions and determining if they are right or wrong? I don’t think it is. I think what we …

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Terms used to minimize abuse

Feathers ruffled — Makes one party the equivalent of a giant bird. Scuffle — Sounds so harmless, just a scuffle. Nothing to be concerned with. Tiff — Really, anything that has 2 Fs in it can’t be so bad. Disagreement — Sin levels by mutualizing. Makes abuse look like a difference of opinion that could …

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May the 4th be with you — Jedi Mind tricks don’t work here!

Guard: Do you have any identification? Jedi: (waving his hand) We do not need any identification. Guard: You do not need any identification. Throughout this divorce process, I’ve joked that X has a Jedi power. It’s as though he waves his hand and declares, “Everything is Ellie’s fault.” And everyone within ear shot, including me, …

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“Don’t be a victim!” — a victim-blaming message that needs to be stopped

  I went to an event designed to help local police and the community to get to know each other. There were tons of officers in uniform, detectives in slacks and sports coats, ADAs in suits, politicians in nicer suits, and Crime Watch Volunteers in pastel jogging suits. They had cookies and coffee. There were brochures on …

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Victim blaming — what should we do about it?

I’ve been considering why people are hesitant to believe reports of abuse. Not just that. I’m considering the responses even when they DO believe it. There is a tendency to blame the targets / victims and I have wondered why that is. And here’s something that’s been a slight comfort to me. It’s not just …

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