Defining domestic abuse by a list of behaviors is never going to capture it

Quite often authors define domestic abuse by giving a list of behaviors. The list can include things like complaining, accusing, angry looks, name calling, denigrating, yelling, threatening, ordering, demanding, belittling, using sarcasm, showing indifference, lying and deceiving, sulking, withholding sexual intimacy, using physical violence. Here is the problem with trying to define domestic abuse as behaviors: You can't necessarily identify who is… Continue reading Defining domestic abuse by a list of behaviors is never going to capture it

When do I submit and when do I stand?

Most Christians have taught the ‘submit’ doctrine in a way that disempowers women. It teaches women to ignore their gut feelings, to put their legitimate needs and preferences and wishes aside. It discourages wives from using negotiation skills with their husbands. It deters wives from setting boundaries when their husbands behave selfishly or sinfully. Here is… Continue reading When do I submit and when do I stand?