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Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt – ways recipients of abuse may respond to their abusers – Gary Pfeifer

“Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Feign, Flirt” — these are some of the ways recipients of abuse might respond to their abusers. In his post Separation from my body to escape suffering, Gary Pfeifer talks about this. If any readers think that recipients of abuse are silly or stupid for responding to abuse by fawning, feigning or flirting, please read the Further Reading links at the bottom of this post.

When you click on the above link, you will be taken to my Mystery Of Iniquity blog which is where I focus on the nature and extent of extreme abuse. At Mystery Of Iniquity, I share testimonies from survivors of extreme abuse, and I present evidence that extreme abuse is sometimes perpetrated by well known Christians who are deeply corrupt but highly skilled at hiding their corruption from the average churchgoer. I also discuss how all that relates to scripture and how the Bible warns us about it.

In Gary Pfeifer’s blog post, which I have featured in the above link, Gary does not go into graphic detail about the things he suffered. Rather, he talks about how he responded to the traumas and how he is gradually healing.

For those of you who are easily triggered by images, I can assure you that there are no pictures or graphics or videos in Gary’s post Separation from my body to escape suffering. In fact, I can’t recall ever seeing images or videos in any of Gary’s posts.

I have come to respect what Gary Pfeifer writes. I’ve been following Gary’s blog for some time. He seems to me to be a genuine recipient of extreme abuse in childhood. He suffered systematic torture-based mind control, ritual abuse, rape by pedophiles, and sex trafficking. He writes about how the traumas affected him, how he responded to the traumas, and how he is healing.

Gary Pfeifer blogs at garypfeiferramcsurvivor.wordpress.com.

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Further Reading

Victims invariably resist violence and other forms of abuse

Victims resist abuse in prudent, determined and creative ways

Honouring Resistance by Dr. Allan Wade

Respecting & Listening to Victims of Violence — a handbook from Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter

2 Comments

  1. Annie

    ‘Endlessly Trying To Make Up For Trivial Slights’, by Gary Pfeifer, the blogger, garynotgary, mentioned in your post, is exactly what I needed to read today! EXACTLY! Thank you, Barbara!

    • Reaching Out

      Hi Annie,

      I have changed your screen name to the name you have used most frequently and recently on the ACFJ blog.

      If you would prefer to use a different screen name, please email me at reachingout.acfj@gmail.com

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