How Do I Tell My Children We are Leaving Daddy?
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
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This is an excellent question posed to us by a reader. We thought we could get the very best answers for her by posting her question and having our readers who have experienced this kind of situation provide some answers. Many thanks to her:
I’m wondering if you can provide insight / resources to help me plan how to tell my children (ages 4-7) that I plan to seek divorce from their Dad. Because they are young, there has been very little that I have shared with them about my experience of verbal / emotional / spiritual abuse, and since our separation, I have simply said that we cannot live with Daddy unless God changes his heart and brings him to repentance. Of course, they are not completely naive to the abuse, but I don’t think they are even aware of how it has affected them. Regardless, I realize that I cannot treat this decision with any type of a cavalier attitude with my kids. I know there’s no “easy” way to tell them, but I want to be as sensitive and supportive of them as possible.
Any help you can provide would be appreciated!
Thanks so much.
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